I'm being ripped to shreds- any tactics?

[ImdreadinganAUTIExmas]

DS1 is bored. Soooooo now his idea of fun is to pinch me. He started on Christmas Eve- after a few hours (!) of it I lost my temper, so hey presto its the new game. I've tried putting him out of the room (cries, but then comes in and immediately tries to pinch again), tried ignoring it (he follows me and pinches again). The only thing that works for 2 seconds is for me to say "you'll go out of the room" as he reaches for me. He goes away for 5 seconds, laughs and comes right back.

I hope it will disappear once school starts, but any further tips on extinguishing the behaviour? It bloody hurts and my face an neck are covered in scratches and welts. MIL is visiting in 2 weeks and I hope to god it's gone by then because he loves pinching her (she screams loudly and shouts at him so he is in heaven)

When does he go back to school?

I was just about to start a thread for you IDAAC to see how your christmas went.

I guess you've tried all the showing him sad faces and saying how it makes you feel when he does it? Not sure if it would work?

Oh babe. Sounds very trying. I think putting him outside the room in a very bored non reacting type way as you're doing is the right reaction. It'll take forever and be very annoying though.

He goes back on Wednesday. he wouldn't get sad faces, although actually thinking about it school did send a thing home saying "no pinching mummy sad' but I have a feeling he'll find that hilarious. I will dig it out though, and wave it at him.

I think school did the same last time it surfaced. Initially they thought he was doing it in response to noise levels, but once i told them it was to get a reaction they did the whole bored routine. It did work. It won't last long, will go as soon as he is busy again but by then I'm going to be a mess. It's unusual for it to be me in the firing line (usually dh or my mum!) I have to kind of save the outsise the room routine or that becomes a routine and he'll pinch in order to get the predictable routine even though he doesn't like it.

God its hard to act bored when he's hanging off your neck by his fingernails. Talking of which, I'm off to bite them while he's aleep, they're too long at the moment!

I did try to give him more attention when he was being nice, but didn;t work becuase as soon as I go near him he's there, hanging off me, killing himself laughing!

i was about to suggest cutting his nails

hope he stops soon.

Baka - are you sure you couldn't get through another couple of weeks just for the joy of seeing your awful MIL squeal?

Poor you - I thought you had nailed this one a long time ago - hopefully school will sort it out again!

Ah we nail this one repeatedly. It goes, then comes back. Hasn't been around for ages (the summer I think??) so I shouldn't complain really. (ow!)

have this too - must be very common! sadly a case of repeat yourself till you feel you are going screaming mental in the hope it makes a difference one day!

I have developed a 6th sense for the approach of a little person with intent to maim (ds1) and I pre-empt by grabbing him in the instant before he strikes and saying you will not hit me / kick / bite / headbut / grab my boobs and jiggle them chanting 'ning-ning-ning-ning' (whichever he was on the verge of)

He laughs his arse off but he doesn't get to do it. I am hoping he will get bored of trying before ds2 starts!!!!

new name!

oh apart from the pinching xmas was surprisingly successful. Ds1 understands about presents at last, which helps!

I'm so very pleased for you that he 'got' Christmas. How wonderful!
Sorry about the pinching. I suppose brandy is outof the question? For him I mean. Though you might find it quite handy too.
Intercepting? Giving him something to pinch/squeeze that makes a fascinating noise? Get a cat and suggest he pinch that? (only joking!)

Hmm well the one good thing about pinching me is that he has stopped pinching the cat (that goes in phases as well and occupied the first few days of the holiday- the cat makes an interesting meeeuuuuwwww when pinched).

he may be asleep, but he won;t let me near his nails. Grrr.

I think cats are really good at defending themselves actually. Good sharp claws and teeth!

I have to admit, I'd rather he pinched the cat than me....and in our house I'm the soppy animal lover and dh is the wicked cat-hater!

I know - he has the scratches to prove it (although our cat is ridiculously soft, so god knows what he did to her). Doesn't stop him though, he thinks that is funny as well!

Like the new name! Glad Xmas was good too.

I wouldn't have pegged your dh as a cat hater aloha- he always sounds so nice when you post about him! Mind you the delightful blu is another sworn cat enemy so nice people can not like cats, I guess.

Could you try something instantaneous that will also cause him pain/discomfort??
Maybe twisting his wrist,treading on his toe in a way that he will not automatically associate with you?

I am not being facetious btw but perhaps like with like is the only way to go,especially as he seems to enjoy doing it so much...

I suggest this

moonndog. Would you do that to your 6 year old?

lol, mtpw!

Moondog

Parrup..possibly.
As a technique could obviously only be used by a parent.Very dodgy otherwise of course.

Have to say I think it would be extremely dodgy and quite possibly abusive used by anyone.

I have to say I couldn't hurt my child like that.

You would be treading on very dodgy ground twisting an wrist or stamping on his foot.

I am quite at that tbh!

It would be re-inforcing that hurting is ok, which surely isn't.