AIBU in HATING the term "SN top trumps"?

[Dillydaydreaming]

Seriously people - don't use it as it's just horrible. This should be a supportive board for those of us who are coping with children whose development does not fit "the norm" in some way or other - life is hard enough without dissolving into bitching and topping on here as well.

Nuff said - am off to sort out DS.

' it really necessary to leave all the people behind with a "you are not as nice as my previous crowd" message?' true though not sure that's what sevenfold meant; sevenfold and another friend with a severely Sn dd were both victims or tagetting a while back (so before most recent recruits) and I can understand their wariness.

But equally some of it inevitable: when I joined MN tehre were about 9 posters in total , now we get the inevitable dodgy poster wanting it either to be an extension of their RL battle with services ('how come you all get this I dont') or even we will get if we have not yet the ones who want services pulled from ASD / non visible / anyone milder than thei child to save money to give to them; they are ut there in RL so they will turn up here one day. Having 'won' a place for ds1 at a SN ASD Base that only admits two kids per intake I am well aware that a few people like to make nasties / begrudge/ try to pick fights if their kid didn't get (even on occasion if they child did not get due to not fitting admission criteria, still to grasp that one!)and MN can't screen them out.

how we handle it as a group is all we can address really.

As a previous poster has mentioned, their are heirarchies (sp) in many things. I have mostly stopped referring to my twin sons as 'twins' as I was told it was stealth boasting. In the twin forum community, you are often perceived to be lower down the ladder if your twins are not identical! (I kid you not. I left that forum fairly quickly).

As far as Top Trumps is concerned, that is an awful thing to say.

I try to be careful when replying to any post about Autism because my son hasn't been officially diagnosed yet and my sons have multiple difficulties. So I will often start a post with saying something along the lines of "yes, I understand that/my son does that, but they also have XXX, one has XXX, and they have XXX" because ALL of those things could be relevant to their behaviour and I don't want to mislead the poster that they 'just' have one problem.

It's not Top Trumps where I am concerned. It's giving the facts and full picture.

Tales a dx means nothing except paper: post with extra add-on information whevever you wnat and we will help as best we can

phew
have to say the problems I had with the nastiness were a a while back, yes some of those people still post, but I am sure there are still lots of nice people on here.
trouble is when you have been targeted a few times like I have it is hard to see the nice people.
and just as you do, someone says something to make it all bad again

Didn;t mean it in a negative way zzzzzzz sorry! Argh, bloody words on a screen getting mixed up again sorry

zzzzz nice to know it wasn't just me that came across the mad twin trumping. WTF?

Anyway, if this wasn't Mumsnet, we could all have a group hug now and forget all about it.

LOL Tales

Sorry if O offended zzzz, Seven will back me up that I am stressed today as I have become the target of a crowd of bullying OAPs with an unknown grudge and not in my normal head.

Anyone know how to disable a zimmer frame?

Justa, you aren't trying to top trump - trumps are you?!

I feel particularly disheartened with mumsnet at the moment, there is a feeling of eye rolling and harumphing around a lot of the boards, but, so far I haven't seen any of this on the sn boards. It makes me sad to hear that there has been conflict here, because this place has been so important to me over the last year, and has made the whole process of testing and appointments and not knowing what is going on, so much easier to bear.

hugs peachy

I think you have to accept that there will be conflict on here at times.
we aren't saints, just people who have it hard.
I have never seen someone left if need of help re sn.
but i have seen nastiness. but that is life.

As Hazy says:

'this place has been so important to me over the last year'

it's about this long if not more that the board has changed. With so called top trumps, unsupportive members and old faithfulls feeling they can't post any more.

zzzzzzzz given that thier opinion seems to be all should give them everything that anybody else wons cannae do that LOL

(I guess all usrrs grow old eh?)

I an run faster though

Oi Peachy

are you trying to saying we are all getting old, mind I'm not that fit!!?? [hwink]

think the point I was trying to make is, if you didn't know what it was like before you wouldn't realise it had changed.

Peachy one bloody big magnet? Should keep them all attached nicely in one corner somewhere

Justa Tell your 6yr old that my dog is the best Top Trumper! He stole a pork pie from DH earlier and seriously my eyes are soooo watering!!

oldfaithfull........makes me feel like an old dog [hgrin]

Aha think you are on to summat there Coff, shall FB dh and ask hiom to install a bloody great electromagnet on kit and keep them all busy

result, ta