5yo DS - hitting and scratching

[MunchkinsMumof2]

My ds has a significant speech and language disorder and is being assessed for autism. He also has sensory issues and a very high pain threshold. I only know he's been hit / scratched / bitten when I bathe him. He also hits back and scratches as he doesn't understand it hurts to do so and is wrong. I overheard the Mum of his only friend today saying that her son has come home with unexplained scratches on his back and now I am really worried it was ds who did it. Should I say something to the Mum and if so, what? My son can't afford to lose his only friend and I am getting more and more down about all that being a Mum to a SN child entails Thanks in advance for any words of wisdom.

You should definitely challenge the school about how your DS is supervised and what they intend to change in response to the injuries you've found. It's not acceptable for children to be coming home with unexplained injuries.

Your son needs to be taught explicitly how to interact with his peers and it's their responsibility to do that when he's in their care.

I agree with both of you but my son doesn't / can't tell me what has happened and doesn't have the reasoning skills of a typical 5 year old. We explain inappropriate behaviour to him repeatedly only to find he's repeating it 5 minutes later. I have asked the school about the injuries and one boy left school as a result of the bite as his Mum was mortified. 2 boys bit him through his vest and school shirt and left clear bite marks on his shoulder. I am worried that he is learning bad behaviour at school and is becoming more aggressive as a result, which I why I am worried he was responsible for his friend's scratch marks.

You are right zzzzz, my son's next teacher is the welfare coordinator and I have introduced myself to her and explained some of my son's difficulties including his use of inappropriate language that other children say and he copies eg "stinky" and "stupid" and she said that she is aware of this and the other taunting that goes on and it will not be accepted in her classroom or care. I think she will be good for my son and I am glad he only has 4 more days left this year. Thank you for your advice.