ds is now at ss (asd, dyspraxic) and i usually ,rare though it is, hate the whole thing about birthday part invites from ds writing the birthday card and the dc whos party it is mother turning their noses up judging ds to what may occur or what he might do or say judgy mothers again 
so its nice ds has been invited to not one but two over the comming two w/e and im actually looking forward to it on ds's behalf a few hours playing with dcs he knows and not being frowned upon or looked down upon by judgy mothers and their little perfect lo's i do hope he actually enjoys it though as i cant be there i already had something very important on so can only drop him off but had a lovely chat with his mum on the phone (not met as he arrives by bus)