Baby noises

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Hi all,

My DS has been "Dx" with sensory processing disorder and Autistic Traits (I use the term loosely as I don't really agree - another story!).

He is 3 years old and has recently started making alot of baby sounding noises and grunts. He can and does talk very well but seems to enjoy making these sounds whenever he can.

I have 2 questions... firstly, is it possible that he simply can't help it (much like his flapping) or is it generally completely voluntary?

Secondly, what do you think is the best way of dealing with it? More and more I see other children look at him strangely or ask questions about him to their parents. I want to try and make him aware that baby noises aren't socially acceptable but at the same time I don't want to give him a complex or make a huge issue out of it.

Any advice greatly appreciated, thanks.

If he is either AS/ASD or has SPD it could be hes stimming in which case its done as a way of coping with the overloading of senses, personally when my son does stimming wether rocking tiptoeing flapping or making funny noises as i know its this i just now and again when for eg doing the rocking ask him to try and sit still he does for a moment not long i only do this if hes doing this while lets say the whole family are watching a film or something the rest of the time i do as his SS would and ignore it . so i think this depends on your other issue as you say you dont agree he has SPD really so if it wasnt any of these and its still worrying you id go back to the gp and ask for a ref to paed . who told you/ why? that he has SPD and Autistic traits? and did you take him to the Hv or GP yourself with concerns? sorry so many questions

Thanks SmileANDwave,

He's under a neurodisability specialist at the moment. His Dx is only a working one. He definitely has SPD and Autistic traits but I feel that there is more going on / other reasons for his difficulties. I also question the fact that he's technically not on the spectrum - I believe that he is.

Good point that his noises are probably for stimming purposes, he does tend to do it a lot more when he's happy (just like his flapping).

Like you, I tend to just ignore it but my DH always tells him to talk "properly". I worry that by ignoring it he may think it's ok and he'll get bullied but I also worry that by always telling him to "talk properly" he may geta a complex that he's "wrong" somehow - does that make any sense?

What's an SS?

SS special school as unfortunately we tried a few MS and never got on mostly for sensory reasons and bullying im not an expert but just speaking from experience my DS is 11 and he certainly cant stop himself from making odd noises and shouting out and rocking ect he may improve as he gets older but of course like my ds he hasnt got worse but the older he got the more peer pressure and the more as he progressed into first them primary the more his differences were noticible and the more he couldnt cope with whats expected of him my ds does them when very happy excited and when tired and ill , my ds from being in MS already had a complex about being different so personally speaking no i wouldnt nag as such but my DH finds it incredibly annoying (my DH is AS himself) so he reminds him now and again but ive gotten used to it and dont even find him jumping around like a jellybean still doesnt distract me from what im doing the funny thing though is DH asks DS to stop wriggling please whilst continuously foot tapping himself lol the other way id distraction rather than reminding him verbally i have used this for the more undesired behaviours such as head banging so maybe distracting is worth a try?

I like the idea of distraction, that could work...

I worry about MS as well for the same reasons. We went to my nephew's school recently for a lunchtime Royal Wedding party. They were all allowed to play in the playground after and my DS just couldn't cope. He became overwhelmed and every time a child jostled him or did something he didn't like (which was literally every few seconds) he froze, collapsed on the ground and cried. I think he might do ok in the classroom but the playground will be a whole different matter

thats quite usuall I find the worst times for them are the unstructured times ie playtime ,pe, parties, shopping, everythings so unexpected for them and overloads the senses then they go into meltdown

Hi my dd is much younger - just under two. She has a dx of SPd andhas social communication difficulties. Anyway, she makes snorting pig noises! It first started when she became obsessed with peppa pig, she would do it whenever she saw peppa pig anything. Now she snorts randomly throughout the day, sometimes really big long loud snorts then she let's out a big sigh as if to say 'ahhh that's better' I'm sure it's much the same as her tiptoeing/flapping habits that she has. Thing is the snorting draws rather more attention than the tiptoeing especially if we are in a quiet place!! No idea how to stop it hadn't even crossed my mind to be honest I guess if she still acts like a piglet at 3 then I will have to rethink! But just to let you know you're not the only one

Thanks Chundle, IKWYM about not really giving it much thought when they're that age. I think a lot of these things become more obvious as they get older. Your DD sounds really cute! But I guess these "cute" problems can become real issues as they start to step out into the big bad world