Anyone fancy joining me for a cuppa?

[StarlightMcKenzie]

It's not Friday, but I fancy a drink with old friends!

so sorry to hear your news star

my dad passed away 20 years ago, my mum 3 years ago, it's hard but I do still think of them every day but the happy memories are in the majority by far now.

Al, yes I've got the paperwork. Frustration.com!

LOL Justa. You know, I'm really sorry for your frustration, but again, it reminds me that life does indeed go on and a big fat Grrrrrrrrr about it!

Fantastic news about your DS Agnes!

Thinking of you Star. Would like to join you for a drink too, if that's all right.

Hurray for your tribunal win Agnes.

Hi Star. Sorry about your Dad. However I'm glad to see you're back. I've not been on too much lately and last I saw you were leaving so 'welcome back' xx

Nice one Agnes! In fact nice three!

Starlight I did once form the opinion that they deliberately make it ridiculously difficult to sort out the paperwork just to keep bereaved people active to stop them thinking too much and to give them something different to talk about.

I hope you're coping with it ok.

Yes please, its been a hell of a week with crap parents evenings, and just worring about dd with potential ASD (await a dx) I need to sit down for a brew

I call that and raise you a piglet.

Thanks Ellen make mine a milk and one sugar, nice n strong, I am not sweet enough lol. Sorry to hear about your dad starlight my dad died of cancer when I was 11, 22 years ago, gosh how times flyes, still miss him and as he died when i was a child, I wonder what he would think of me know. Had a crappy parents evening on Monday and it has set the tone for the whole of the week. DD is just 4 but all they wanted to talk about was negatives as they are going to statement her, and I thought that i would hear about how is is getting on in pre school. I came home from it to find dh weeding the garden with dd cycling on the patio, now never in my wildest dreams would I think she would ride a bike until she was at least 6/7. I though how could they say those things when we know she has made a hell of a progress in comparison to what she was like last year, sorry for the rant I will have another

Sorry to hear about your dad it does get easier with time.

Sorry, piglet, about negative parents evening. I suppose it all goes towards getting her support but they need to remember she's your DD first and your DD with SEN second. You still need to hear how lovely she is and her achievements are all the more special. Well done, piglet junior, riding a bike at 4! My DS 2 was 7 and DS 3 was 6 and he's supposed to be NT.

Thanks Ellen , she doesent pedal all the way round but gets herself moving alright. I would have preferred a separate meeting to discuss the statment not within parents evening when I want to hear how she has done at pre school. The headteacher funnily enough, has a daughter (31) who recieved a statement at 5 with ASD severe dyslexia, same as dd and she is now doing a MA Maths and Science at a Russell group uni. So I guess that she has a vested interest in getting dd all the help she can get even if it is going to be highlighting the difficulties for the purposes of the statement. She did say that i could request to see dd nursery teacher for a more rounded meeting on dd progress which I have done, as i find it hard to believe that she has made no progress and has very little skills. Every child whether NT or SN has strengths/weaknessess, and make progress in their own way.

Her achievements may be smaller, but they are all the more special and celebrated for that. She will be making progress but children with SEN can take longer to absorb what they learn, therefore it takes longer to show. Eg receptive language can improve by loads before expressive language(easier to demonstrate and observe) catches up. She will probably seem to plateau and will then make a step change. Development can be spikey, some areas way ahead of others. It will come. Remember to compare her only with herself and not those pesky NT peers. It's her progress that counts.

I'm done in, night Piglet.

Funeral to get through now, Star? Cry buckets, it's good for you.

Thanks everyone actually the tribunal was ages ago just we only see the paed occasionally which was why it was so nice he commented on it.
Star I hope you get some time to process it all. Do try and put yourself somewhere near the front of the queue for a change.

Thanks Ellen night night thinking of you tomorrow

Thanks Ellen night night thinking of you tomorrow

Thanks Ellen. I have no idea if I'll manage it but I want to write something to read on the day.

Any tips?

My brother was funny at the funeral directors today. They had all the coffins on display to choose from and my brother asked if he could try them out to see which was the most comfortable!

Loving the vampire image. I couldn't read anything. Just sobbed all the way through. My brother was really good, though.

Star

LOL at your brother.

Do be kind to yourself, there is no timetable for grief. Do make yourself some tea too; have brought along some biccies for the tea .

CRUSE are very helpful as well as and when you need support.

We just chose things to say about our dad that made us laugh and reminded people of his character. He was vey proud of us kids. He always used to say that my sister 'had a lovely singing voice,' (when it wasn't), I had 'good bone structure', (cos I was a bit fat), and my brother was a great footballer, (he played rugby, though.)

Sorry to hear the news about your dad, star.

I'm sorry to hear about your dad, Star. Take care of yourself and give yourself time to grieve.

My mum now works for CRUSE as a counsellor, I hear very good things about what they do. Star I hope you find some time to catch your breath over the next few days. I am sorry I missed you yesterday, I would always love to join you.

I didn't manage to speak at my dad's funeral, I did manage to laugh though when my ds then 9 months decided to start to crawl for th first time and headed off under dad's coffin. I could here him laughing. We also had spent all of our lives teasing dad, who was perpetually late for everything, that he would be late for his own funeral, half expected to see him running down the aisle apologising to all and climbing in.

Your brother sounds fab, as does your dad Ellen.

anyone? I am putting the kettle on now?