Evening
Sign, sorry to hear about the second wave of snot. Hope the abs chase it away.
I have had a really odd week, really bad day on Tuesday when ds was forced to do the cross-country without any warning at all, taken off premises and expected to lap the park. We are talking a lad who is a skinny strip of nothing, has absolutely no stamina, really poor co-ordination and hypotonia. He ran part of one lap, got horrible stitch and muscle cramps, was unable to breathe and was on the verge of fainting. His interpretation of this was that he was dying and when he tried to stop running he was told he had to carry on. When he couldn't they said he could walk, but he couldn't even manage that and ultimately got told off for stopping. He was totally traumatised by the whole thing, lots of sobbing and wailing to the point I couldn't get him to walk home and most of the playground full of parents and children were staring agog. 
Then more sobbing all evening whenever he remembered it or I tried to talk it through with him.
Next morning I had a really great meeting with the Head about ds's outward bound trip, raised the cross country issue and that turned into a discussion about ds's needs and difficulties and lack of staff understanding of AS and how this is being addressed very shortly, when all staff and support staff are having ASD awareness training. The meeting then moved onto transition, how much support ds needs and the subject of statementing.
I came away feeling really positive, only to find at 3.15 that I had an extremely agitated and distressed little boy - again. He had been bullied by one of his old bullies (again) at lunch time, went to tell the dinner ladies, who accused him of fighting, reported both him and the bully to his teacher and punished him by not letting him out to play. The teacher didn't know what had happened, but still chose to take the view that ds must have been guilty and told me she didn't know what had gone on, but assumed they were as bad as each other. Bearing in mind there is a record of this child bullying my ds since early infants, we have twice had him dealt with by the Head in the past and he is currently on report for exactly this type of behaviour, I was furious. Basically the assumption is that because ds is vocal and argues with teachers and dinner ladies, he is a trouble maker who must be guilty.
Roll on today, I was still furious when I woke up this morning, so spent a couple of hours carefully constructing a letter to the teacher and copying it the Head. Then I walked down to hand deliver it straight away and was assured they would give it straight to the Head as soon as his meeting was over.
Went to collect ds, and he was in a worse state than yesterday, unable to communicate he was in such a state and apparently had been like that since lunchtime. Teacher came up and said, something about him being in a state because he's such a loyal friend and I couldn't work out what the hell had happened.
Turns out this time the bully had picked on the younger brother of ds's best friend, basically attacking him, digging his nails in and drawing blood, punching him and then kicking him full force in the stomach, leaving the child doubled up on the floor unable to breathe and still looking extremely ill three hours after the event. The victim had done nothing - the bully's excuse was that he 'thought' the victim 'might' be thinking about hurting his friend - he actually has no friends.
Ds just couldn't cope, he has once again lost all faith in the adults of the school to protect him and other children from bullies and is extremely upset and worried that they never listen to him, but always seem to favour the bully. He basically screamed, ranted, shook and wailed for an full hour and a half after school and every time he tried to stop it all just rose up and exploded again.
He has now had his nintendo ds time and done some reading, so is a bit calmer, but is still stimming, tic-ing, walking up and down and up and down, flapping and even spinning. He was spinning in the playground after he came out and he hasn't done that for years. 
In some ways I was pleased I got my complaint letter in this morning - in others I wish I had know what happened today as it would have been way less restrained if I had.
Lord help me (and poor ds1) - where's the 
?