Ds1(7) crying in my bedromm this morning. Doesn't want tio go to school and has no freinds, apparently. First time he has said this.
suspected very mild AS. Tell me that his closest friend has been nasty to him again. Calling him an idiot and laughing at him with other boys. He has always liked this boy more than he likes ds. Not the first time we've had nastiness.
I can't say I want ds to like this boy as much as he does. I want him to have self worth to realise he deserves a better friend. But he is only 7. Plus I can't even think of/ don't even know any of the other boys well enough to know who I would prefer him to be friends with.
The second boy has bullied ds. But ds really likes him. teacher says its a love-hate relationship.
I think ds is just desperate for a close friend. and does not have one.
the friendship weeks, have no resulted in a close relationship. He plays with lots of the girls, often.
3 boys bullied him at start of term.
He was stigmatised as a naughty boy by the teacher and lost alot of minues, and I was not told about this. was cross with school.
We met a boy of his class in sainsburys yesterday. I only knew him by name. he said to him mum " thats Joe bloggs. He's the naughty boy". and she , all embarrased said, "don't say that, you can be a naughty at home". he said " no, hes' not just A naughty boy, he's THE naughty boy." " He always shouts out in class" (shouts out the answer, instead of waiting for his turn to be asked)
I went home. realised that the repercussions of how badly his teacher had handled the situation, at the beggining of term, had been worse than I thought.
Told dh. He said I was complately over-reacting.
Am I ?