bellissima I sort of know what you are saying- well, I would: known at schoolas the four Eyed Git for obvious reasons, I ahve severe astigmatism (should lose my driivng licence at some point, dreading it) and ds1 has the same. Has had glasses since 18 months, though his S means he will not wear them.
And I didn't even see that thread.
but it is quite possible to understand why a child does something without liking the action. If a child acts on impulse because they cannot control it, or understand the ramifications (common even in seemingly HF children), etc.
Posting on this board can be a thing of great complexity- quite often our children, or those of others, do things we hate but it is possible to understand if not accept or like. DS1's ASD led violene for example..... I understand teh reasons why, and I do think of it as different to another 11 year old, but equally I have spent years making sure otehr kids are safe from him and trying to stop it all.
And the respect for professionals thing... I am not a professional, because I don;t get paid for it; but I should ahve my MA in the next 12 months (ASD). I don;t expect respect. It's nice to eb able to offer up to date info and ideas but all I ahve achieved is to sit in a class a few hunderd metres away once a week for two hours. Wowee.
I ahve no idea what most of these threads are but I am in a few FB groups (heck, a decade i;ve been here: of course I have made a few friends!). So whatever is going on I annot say I have a clue.