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Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on special needs.

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A message for the new users

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WuggleMump · 26/01/2011 22:45

I can't help but notice that since the recent media attention we have gained a LOT of new members on the SN board, which is great, new info is always useful and us members are happy to give support and help in any way we can.

However a small percentage of posters are going about things the wrong way, they are brash, argumentative, resorting to name calling and insults which is not what the SN boards is about, we're here to give support.

Because of this some posters who have years of experience of SN don't feel they can use the board anymore, this can only be a bad thing as these ladies have given valued support over the years which means that the SN board eventually will come like the rest of mumsnet, no longer a safe haven in a NT world....

What i'm basically trying to say is wind your neck in, think before you post and save any petty rows for Am I being unreasonable etc...

Have namechanged btw, don't want to gain another stalker..... [bwink]

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silverfrog · 26/01/2011 22:49

I just wanted to say that, afaik, a lot of the oldies who are on a break (ahem, like me Blush) are not on a break due to newbies.

the more the merrier (althoguh I heartily agree with your post - this is a place of respect and support).

I am on a break because I do not agree with some of the MNHQ decisions taken recently, which have directly impinged on the SN board.

I know a few of the others on a break are so due to similar reasons.

superfantastic · 26/01/2011 22:54

Well said WuggleMump and Id like to say welcome to the new people on the board, Ive only been on MN since last August but it has seen mr through the diagnosis of my DD (ASD), some sticky issues at school and filling in the dreaded DLA form. I would have been lost without MN....even DP would say! [bsmile]

Ill miss those that have left but understand the need for a break...I hope you will return. :)

WhatMayWantsMayGets · 26/01/2011 22:55

examples please

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WuggleMump · 26/01/2011 23:03

For example critisisng a poster because she may be struggling to toilet train an '8 year old' then indicating it makes her an unfit parent is just low, and if anybody thinks that's what the SN board is about should go elsewhere.

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coppertop · 26/01/2011 23:09

I've just read the thread with the post about the 8yr-old on it. Even more bizarre that the person who wrote it apparently has a child with SN themselves. Confused

Welcome to all the nice newbies though. :)

WhatMayWantsMayGets · 26/01/2011 23:10

Must be a troll Wuggle.

Most people come here because they need support, not to spout that crap.

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WuggleMump · 26/01/2011 23:17

Not necasarilly.....people don't lose the ability to be an arsehole just because they have a SN child..

And please understand, we are wary about posting too much info BECAUSE of the recent media attention, I know some of you may have flocked here thinking it's some kind of salvation and the answer to all the issues regarding respite care etc, the reality is it isn't, the cause has been highlighted, much more can be done as individuals without pasting all and sundry over the interweb, and I for one don't want to be tripping over reporters when i'm trying to do the school run !

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Peachy · 26/01/2011 23:32

Wuggle good posts

newbies are good; they keep things fresh

but we all have to think before we post on Sn and understand people's live son here are by definition a bit challenging and outside the run of the mill.

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 00:11

I'm a newbie on this board and to be honest,considering we are all adults with special needs children,I can't believe the way things are,for me I feel kind of like I shouldn't put post on here because "the oldies" might just laugh or ignore me because I'm not one of the "gang".All I wanted after my son was diagnosed with ASD was some mature,kind but also fun friends who know all though we have a much harder life than some mums we can still come here have a laugh or a moan about our kids,hubs ect...instead it feels like school with bullying and silly bitchy arguments and "popular kids" and "the outcast".The exact same thing we are fighting for our kids not to be,I hope we can change the way things are on here because everyone is so open and fun,netmums really doesn't need to be taken that serious. Xx

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 27/01/2011 00:18

This isn't netmums !! [bshock]

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 00:19

Same difference!

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 27/01/2011 00:24

Seriously, I think people are just flapping because they don't want yet more media attention, and a lot of new posters seem to be some sort of crusade....

I've just scrolled down all the threads and the vast majority of people have had thoughtful/ helpful advice to their posts.

sugared · 27/01/2011 00:45

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin I kinda of agree with you there, although i fully understand the point of the post, I as a previous user many moons back i returned a few days before this all kicked off and i now get that impression too, It does very much feel like we're all back at school acting like littles girls behaving in a manner we hope our kids dont ever endure.

The recent media attention drew many new users some geniune and some not with plenty of time on their hands!!

Wheres the 'sisterhood' gone?

Hopscotch anyone? :)

Goblinchild · 27/01/2011 00:56

Perhaps we could all try netmums as well, and then see which one suits the individual better?
I assume they have an SN section as well.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 03:41

Oh I so hate it when people swan in, piss everyone off and then go on about 'bullying' and 'school' when people object.

The only immature and schoolchild-like comments are those IMO

Hmm
tryingtokeepintune · 27/01/2011 03:54

silverfrog - I a sorry because i seem to have missed that completely. (I miss quite a lot of things due to present situation) What MNHQ decision?

asdx2 · 27/01/2011 05:49

Goblin hun I don't think Netmums is the place for you Grin or me Grin

Dameednabeverage · 27/01/2011 07:39

Biscuit mwah

Spinkle · 27/01/2011 07:42
fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 07:45

Spinkle, you are spot on. Smile

cornsilk · 27/01/2011 07:48

considering that many posters namechange before posting on here to ask for advice saying that new posters are getting bullied is just total fiction.

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 07:51

Netmums is good much more civil,you don't get the silly bitching and stuff,to be honest I haven't witnessed the arguments on mumsnet I don't quite know where they are going on,but mumsnet is more fun you can be real and say exactly what you feel how you want
As for people "swaning in" it's a online forum all are welcome,it's not someones house,we all came on here for support at the end of the day,well I'm going to back off from this thread before I become the new "most hated" newbie of the day!

Goblinchild · 27/01/2011 07:52

Bullying?
AS far as I'm aware, several posters wanted to start a crusade and some of us said no, do what you want to for your child, but count us out.
So not doing what you want us to is thought of as bullying you?
Only if you are still at the egocentric stage and still in reception.
Netmums. Try it, you'll like it.

Goblinchild · 27/01/2011 07:54

Hate someone who is an online presence with no control or impact on your real life?
That's like hating someone on TV, illogical.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 07:56

WHAThis.. Maybe you are better suited to Netmums then? why post here if it isn't right for you? Smile