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A message for the new users

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WuggleMump · 26/01/2011 22:45

I can't help but notice that since the recent media attention we have gained a LOT of new members on the SN board, which is great, new info is always useful and us members are happy to give support and help in any way we can.

However a small percentage of posters are going about things the wrong way, they are brash, argumentative, resorting to name calling and insults which is not what the SN boards is about, we're here to give support.

Because of this some posters who have years of experience of SN don't feel they can use the board anymore, this can only be a bad thing as these ladies have given valued support over the years which means that the SN board eventually will come like the rest of mumsnet, no longer a safe haven in a NT world....

What i'm basically trying to say is wind your neck in, think before you post and save any petty rows for Am I being unreasonable etc...

Have namechanged btw, don't want to gain another stalker..... [bwink]

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SparkleRainbow · 27/01/2011 10:40

glad you are still here fanjo

SparkleRainbow · 27/01/2011 10:43

If someone thinks my thoughts or advice is worth printing in a newspaper, then more fool them. Seriously though bullet I know what you mean, but I think we have to carry on as normal, and claim back our forum, they willget bored and move on soon enough.

Thecarrotcake · 27/01/2011 10:46

Bullet yourcomment about your thoughts being poured overin newspapers is exactly why I de regged ages ago.. And then eventually came back.

It is also why I don't post lots about our situation, only posting what I know rl people already know... Which is a shame really because those things may actually help others out.

zzzzz · 27/01/2011 10:52

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redhappy · 27/01/2011 11:02

zzzzz that is the most bonkers post I have read on here for ages, but also the most brilliant!

Lets stop telling people how to behave and just lead by example. I totally agree.
Honk!

Herecomestheninkynonk · 27/01/2011 11:03

Honk!

Just wanted to say whether you are a newbie or an oldie it doesn't matter!

This is how I see it;

If you need help, start a thread. If you can help someone else through your own experience or provide a bit of support, post.

If you have nothing nice to say, say... nothing!

Simples :)

bullet234 · 27/01/2011 11:10

But your name should be vvvvv for that post zzzzz .

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 27/01/2011 11:30

Honk honk, honk honk honk honk, honk

Honk honk honk honk honk honk, honk honk,honk honk honk, hissssssssssssssssss honk

Honk honk honk, hissssssssssssssssss honk

honk

SparkleRainbow · 27/01/2011 11:41

honk honk honk honk honk honk, and for all those helping me with my dla drama thread.....honk honk honk honk honk

very of ninkynonks name.....

Thecarrotcake · 27/01/2011 11:56

honk
hoooooooonnnnnkkkk

5inthebed · 27/01/2011 12:00

Honk honk honk.

I'm not sure how it works with everyone else, but when I join and internet forum, I don;t just dive in there. It is always best to have a read of a few posts first, get a feel for the place and then introduce yourself. The SN board is totally different to the rest of MN, we do not judge anyone else if they say they are new, we welcome them and introduce ourselves back.

All this newbie/oldie stuff is crap. I joined MN a few years ago when pregnant with DS3 and SN was the only board I posted on for a while. I was made to feel very welcome and have had some excellent advice. So to those who think they are being bullied, try starting a post introducing yourself and see how it goes.

Whatthis, you sound very angry with everything, not just this board, with life itself. If you take the time to read some of the posts rather than jumping in mouth first you might just see how nice this board can be.

SparkleRainbow · 27/01/2011 12:08

honk honk 5inthebed

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 12:24

Hi I've Been on here a few months now my previous name was kesha123,I Did all the introducing myself months ago,ive had alot of support and laughs on here.

You think I'm angry in life how did you work that out? I'm happy and love my life my son was only diagnosed 18 days ago and ive tryed my hardest to stay positive.

I was simply trying to say all this bitching and arguing newbies and oldies business is childish we are all here for the same reason support,to make friends and have one place that we can speak to each other about the crazy things our kids do or complain about what needs to be complained about.

If I'm wrong and bitching,bullying and sniping is not happening and Im wrong why are so many people leaving? Why am I being told I'm angry in life and aww poor innocent you ect? If I'm wrong I apologise.

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 12:27

The difference between online and real life is that the same rules do not apply,there's not a option to knock on a thread before you walk in,it's a online community where I thought all people were welcome.

5inthebed · 27/01/2011 12:37

Nobody has said aww poor innocent you.

I remember you, you started a thread about some hurtful stuff your friend said. From what I remember you received some lovely friendly advice from everyone. Nobody bullied you or made you feel unwelcome.

What I meant by angry was that your posts are sounding quite cross. I can completely understand here you are atm, I've been there myself. It took me a good year to get over my DS2 getting dxed with autism. If you want to yell and scream about it, feel free to do it on here. You don't have to try be positive if you don't feel like you can. it's ok to cry about it!

All people are welcome, who said they weren't?

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 12:48

If you read through the thread you will see the poor innocent you comments and all the rest,yes I was upset about what my friend said,on that day it doesn't make me angry in life.

It's just not nice to see people just switch on you,when you are at your most vulnerable and I've cryed alot since,but I didn't come here to cry I came to meet people who understand me and find one place that through all this madness is a safe haven,it would be nice for someone to actually read what I've been saying on the tread and then you will see I have not caused no harm!

And to me it's seemed a case of what you thought was newbie trying to have a bitch and that was not the case.

I never ever in all my life would have expected this kinda banter on a sn board! It was one place I thought was different!

lightthebluetouchpaper · 27/01/2011 12:48

I am totally benused by all this. Am I the only one who hasn't a clue what is going on?

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 12:51

And as for who said I went welcome read the reply on here "maybe you should go to netmums ect.." sounds abit like piss off to me?

SparkleRainbow · 27/01/2011 12:51

Nope you ae not alone, and I have been here since the beginning......
but I like the honking

zzzzz · 27/01/2011 14:47

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 27/01/2011 15:08

Hoooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnkkkkkkkkkkkkkk

redhappy · 27/01/2011 15:16

I meant bonkers in the best possible way of course

It was just sligtly surreal in the midst of what was being said- if we'd all been in a room I would have got the giggles.

But I think you've done a great job of putting everything in perspective.

honk honk.

coppertop · 27/01/2011 15:33

LOL at the honking. :o

Dameednabeverage · 27/01/2011 15:44

Hnk
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TallulahdoesthehulainHawaii · 27/01/2011 15:46

zzzzz, that is one of the nicest posts I have read on Mumsnet and very apt for SN topic.

I don't really have a place on SN, my severely disabled DD died nearly 5 years ago. I have kept an eye on the topic though (how sad that I miss being a SN mum?).

It is disquieting to see the disarray in this topic when before I had seen nothing but support and harmony (albeit the occasional blip!).

I understand that there are a lot of trolls and unwanted interest lately, I hope that the mainstays manage to keep it altogether and carry on providing the support and information to new parents and each other. It would be a great shame to lose that support.

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