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A message for the new users

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WuggleMump · 26/01/2011 22:45

I can't help but notice that since the recent media attention we have gained a LOT of new members on the SN board, which is great, new info is always useful and us members are happy to give support and help in any way we can.

However a small percentage of posters are going about things the wrong way, they are brash, argumentative, resorting to name calling and insults which is not what the SN boards is about, we're here to give support.

Because of this some posters who have years of experience of SN don't feel they can use the board anymore, this can only be a bad thing as these ladies have given valued support over the years which means that the SN board eventually will come like the rest of mumsnet, no longer a safe haven in a NT world....

What i'm basically trying to say is wind your neck in, think before you post and save any petty rows for Am I being unreasonable etc...

Have namechanged btw, don't want to gain another stalker..... [bwink]

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WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 07:58

Love goblinchilds comment!! I dont feel bullied I've had a laugh on here never had a argument! When I say bullying/bitching it seems to be goin on between others!!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 07:58

Yes, we all PM each other and choose a 'newbie' to hate that day.

Grow up.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 08:00

Well you are going to have an argument if you keep posting about 'bullying' and 'hating newbies'

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 08:01

Fanjo,what are you on about? I've said numerous times I like mums net,this is exactly what I mean,so what because I like both mumsnet and netmums I can't go on both? It's a online forum I join up as many as I can to get support!!!!
There is a person behind this computer,for some situations netmums is good and for other mumsnet,there's no need to direct all you mumsnet fustrations at me I haven't been involved in all the banter,was just simply trying to promote support!!

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 08:03

I don't have any mumsnetfrustrations.

I stand by what I said.

Stop stirring and I will welcome you in a friendly way like I do everyone else.

Spinkle · 27/01/2011 08:05

I usually find people who want to "be real and say exactly how you feel how you want" are exactly the same people who don't like other people to 'be real and say exactly how they feel how they want' right back at them.

If you can 'give it out' WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin then you must be prepared to 'take it' too. Otherwise you will come across as hypocritical.

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 08:05

Who said anything about hating the newbies I said I will come off before I'm THE most hated,for having a opinion,this is why I said it because all frustrations are now being directed at me,why am I not allowed to comment?
When I was talking about bullying I was talking about the older members who seem to have more of argument agro and feeling like they have to leave.Not me to be honest I was enjoying mumsnet.

Spinkle · 27/01/2011 08:06

You are not promoting support, btw

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 08:07

Poor little you, all innocent and here I come taking my frustrations out on you.

What a meanie I am.

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 08:10

I really dont get what everyone is saying to me you know? How the hell am I stirring last time I heard that was in school.

And fanjo I didnt relies I had to earn my right to be here,my logic was my son has Autism,I need support if was about him not me.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 08:12

Ok you keep up with the passive-aggressive trying to make me look bad, have a nice time now.

WHAThisFlappinNotFlyin · 27/01/2011 08:14

You know what forget it,I don't know whether you think I'm someone else or have been trolling but I'm off,got too much stuff going on in my head to be explaining myself to people,I dont know,and this is what I meant by bullying,poor innocent me,because I wanted support,thanks alot you dont know the half of it.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 08:16

Yup, I know nothing abouthaving a child with SN

mamalino · 27/01/2011 08:25

This went well then.

I agree the SN boards have a different feel to the rest of MN and that if people want a ruck go to AIBU or elsewhere. SN is for support and not childish squabbling. I do think it will die down and go back to normal. Hope so.

1980Sport · 27/01/2011 08:36

I hope so too! I lurked for awhile before starting my first thread - I was worried the regulars would think I was silly, but I got so much help and support from that first thread that I was hooked. I've learnt so much in the last few months from all the experienced posters, you have kept me sane through a nightmare time. Fanjo especially you - so thank you!
I hope those taking a break don't stay away too long - please don't underestimate the value of your support and advice and the impact you can have on some one new needing help! You really are needed here!

Hopelesslydisorganised · 27/01/2011 08:55

Welcome to the new users. I hope you find what you need here.

I have a son with ASD and have found these boards very supportive and have made several friends as a result - so welcome.

yoshysmum · 27/01/2011 09:23

I am relatively new and have had nothing but great advice and support whilst I was going through the diagnostic period. Sn is a bit of a safe haven for me cos I know my concerns won't be laughed at. Lets keep it this way.

Marne · 27/01/2011 09:29

I find the whole situation .

The media attention from last week has given us lots of newbies which is great (welcome to all of you and i hope you find the sn boards usefull), there are also a few trolls who are just being nosey (saw mn on the news and thought they would come and see what its all about and winde a few people up), its a shame that a couple people have to ruin things for 100's of others. The more people/parents on this board the more advice (which is great), i do hope that no one has been bit off by a couple of posts that have got out of hand.

I have found the past week very stressful on mn but i have stayed put, mn is my only way of communicating with other parents who understand my situation (without it i would be lost). I am really missing the regulars who are taking a break and i do hope things settle down soon and they return to give us great advice as they have in the past.

SparkleRainbow · 27/01/2011 09:38

I am at a loss, I can't see the attraction for plonkers to come on here and stir just for the sake of it, what small little lives they must have. I must have missed so much over the last few days. This place welcomed me with open arms, helpful advice and support, never snide comments or hurtful remarks ever.....although I do have the knack of killing threads.....may be with this one too, we shall see

Marne, fanjo, you won't leave me will you? >

Marne · 27/01/2011 09:42

I won't leave (i have tried but can't stay away), if Fanjo left i would cry , it does feel a little odd on here at the moment though and i seem to be spending more time on FB.

Lets hope it returns to normal soon.

Thecarrotcake · 27/01/2011 09:45

Here here Marne.. Totally agree :)

I love SN it's like a comfy pair of slippers to me.. Where I'm not looked at strangely if I post some of the slightly odd things ds does or small things he has achieved.. I feel amongst friends, friends who understand.
If I'm a complete numpty, or need to wind my neck in... Then I feel comfy enough for my 'friends' to tell me.. And I appreciate it.
My RL friends are lovely, but are just not in the same position I'm in.. And it's great to have this board.

I'm too tired most of the time to go on any crusade (sp)
.. It's not because I don't care..

I care about and respect the 'oldies' and not so oldies :) I welcome newbies ... I hate trolling.
( although the thread title 'tripp trapp or beezi" the otherday made me really laugh!)

SparkleRainbow · 27/01/2011 09:46

Hope so, I don't do FB really, all my support is on here really.....

Glad you are staying marne

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 27/01/2011 10:01

Am still around.

meltedmarsbars · 27/01/2011 10:08

Gosh, a spat on the SN board!?!

bullet234 · 27/01/2011 10:30

I like this forum, I like the fact that I feel safe on it. That if I want I can talk about my lads and about myself. That I can talk about the negatives and about the positives without being ripped apart. I like the fact that when people disagree with me, they do so in a good, rational way. I don't want that to stop. I want to be able to give advice on here on threads that don't cast aspersions on a poster's parenting skills. I want to be able to reply on a thread without the thought that my comments might be pored over in a newspaper.

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