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I am seething!

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 15:20

Won't say huge amounts but I have had a meeting with school today.. And I'm so angry!

So tonight the wine is on me.. And tomorrow I start kicking butt!

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bullet234 · 11/01/2011 15:23

Can you say anything? Good luck with the butt-kicking.

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 15:34

Ds had to sit in a meeting with us and was asked a ton of questions that he couldn't answer by senco and was almost in tears

and I was also told a whole pack of lies! .. When I asked for progress records of x y and z .. Apparently they are being written up.. But this meeting was scheduled a month ago!.. Still no IEP.. And was td what you expect us to do?

And then told we can't do that... When I gave my answer!.. FFS

I was then told they had run out of time.. And ds has progressed... Based on the time since he's been back at school after the Christmas holidays!

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IndigoBell · 11/01/2011 15:37

Oh, not good :(

I've got my IEP meeting in a fortnight and have asked for evidence of progress. What are the chances I'll get it?????

Luckily I have some samples of work she's been doing at home Grin

If they can't prove progress I will assume there has been none and act accordingly....

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 16:42

Indigo.. I'd write to the school just reminding them you will be requiring progress reports!

Although be warned I'm waiting now for basically fabricated progress and transferrence of skill reports.. Because sencos eyes glaslzed when I asked for the. Quickly followed by they are about to be written up!

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Ineedalife · 11/01/2011 16:45

Ffs TACC why does everything have to be so hard??

And your Ds has a DX!!!

Ineedalife · 11/01/2011 16:48

We were supposed to have another meeting with school before xmas but I just haven't got the energy to fight with them only to have them completly ignore everything I say at the moment.

I think I am just going to write and list all the things that Dd3 is struggling with and all the suggestions that have been made and send it in and see what happens.

Sorry you had such a crap meetingAngry

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 16:49

Because ... If you look in their eyes carefully.. You can see the saving pounds signs!

Farking numpties... !

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 16:55

I have pinned senco down to another meeting.. Where I expect all reports to be ready for me ( fabricated or not)....
I have my file which shows no progress

I am taking parent partnership ( might as well try them out)..but to witness the meeting!
Because .. This meeting I was catagoricolly( sp sorry dh is home and I'm on the wine!) told ( and I made senco repeat so I could obviously note take ).. Statements that totally contravined the sencop... Which I had with me.. Page marked!

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Ineedalife · 11/01/2011 17:12

I have spoken to parent partnership too, in my area they seem helpful and I have heard good things about them. I am considering ringing them again to see if they can help me to rebuild communication links with Dd3's school as they are nonexistant at the moment. To the point that the HT?SENCO didn't even acknowledge me in the corridor this morning when I had to take DD3 to the medical roomSad.

Enjoy your wine and hope the next meeting goes better.

I am going on a sencop course at the end of march which could be helpful do Dd3 as well as in my job.Smile.

corns1lky · 11/01/2011 17:20

poor ds - what did the senco think she was playing at? That kind of behaviour shows what little understanding they have of his needs.

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 17:33

Corny.. Senco sat there and just asked ds a whole load of questions.. And then there was a typical literal moment where senco was trying to engage ds but ds took what was said not how it was meant..
And ds stimmed and didn't do eye contact and was trying to work out the answers to what lesson is your best and what do you want us to do to help you and what targets would you give yourself.

Ds's chin was wobbling and eyes were welled up for nearly an hour!
Even though I intervined!

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 17:34

Indeed that course sounds a bit good !

And thanks guys ( I'm on glass two.. And it's a good job dh is home lol... I may dose in a bit lol)

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 17:38

Btw ds has had his fave dinner and a huge slice of choc roullard ( sp)...

And we had big hugs!

" mum I didn't know what senco wanted me to say.. I got confused!"
poor bugger.. I'm going to find a funny movie to bung on in a bit!

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MotherJack · 11/01/2011 17:41

What stupid questions!!! My DS is probable Aspergers and he would have been thinking about his infra-red shooting game if they had asked him what targets would you set yourself. grrrr. Good luck with the arse kicking tomorrow and enjoy your wine :)

andperseand · 11/01/2011 17:51

'Contra vine d', 'inter vine d' - definitely on the wine Grin. (Bold only works if I leave a space for some reason.)

So sorry it was so frustrating. We invest so much energy in these meetings, and for what half the time. I have got to the stage where I want to refuse to even go to them any more, except I know that nothing would please them more.

Enjoy the wine - the headache tomorrow can be salved by kicking butt.

andperseand · 11/01/2011 17:54

And grrrr to 'what do you want us to do to help you' - my DS has been asked that, and the variation 'list three things that would make school better for you'.

I just want to scream 'if he could answer that in the first place we wouldn't even be in this situation ...'.

Think I'll have to have a sympathy glass of wine because I am seething for you too.

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 18:04

Honest to god I was very very cross and got more cross the more I could see ds struggle!... And he didn't give ds anytime to think !

I may actually complain to the sen and chair of governors about it tbh..

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DameEdnaBeverage · 11/01/2011 18:43

Sorry to hear that Arsenic.Next meeting will probably be better as you will have PP to witness it. I have a meeting soon and have loads to go through with them but expect it will be cut short too Hmm. Did you point out to Senco that she was talking shite contravening the Sencop?
Poor ds Sad

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TheArsenicCupCake · 11/01/2011 20:13

Good luck with your meeting!

It was cut short before I could even say that grrrr

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NotRocketSurgery · 11/01/2011 20:20

well, you say

"I just want to scream 'if he could answer that in the first place we wouldn't even be in this situation ...'."

but I think some of these "what do you want us to do" questions are bloomin' hard for anyone - even an adult.

andperseand · 11/01/2011 21:20

NRS - I know, but I am just speaking as the worn out mum of a DS who has barely been in school for a year now and not at all since September.

Won't go into details now but too much just being passed on to someone else and no one doing anything. And even when he has done his best to answer no one listens and puts it into action Sad

NotRocketSurgery · 11/01/2011 21:40

well, tommorrow he's got you in full butt kicking mode - what more could a boy need - hope their a**ses respond appropriately :)

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