In amongst all the statementing angst, and banging of my head against Ed officer, (or should I say resisting urge to bang her head against filing cabinet 
something lovely happened. ds came out of pre school clutching a little toy and a teacher's 'star of the day' certificate.
"He did good listening and very good tidying up" 
Am so proud, and his one to one is lovely,
am daring to believe that this may all go well and school may actually take on board what he needs...
fingers, toes, legs and eyes crossed!!