dd1 has come out of school with a <minor> black eye. dh thinks i should talk to the school im a bit meh about it.

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she is saying it was deliberate. i think it sounds like an accident. dh says that the school should have noticed regardless.

she is very tired so her eyes look drawn anyway i didnt notice it immediately but she does have one eye that is redder and more swollen than the other and a slight yellow bruise. i aksed her if anything had happened to her eyes but didnt mention which eye and she said "yes some one hit me right here" and pointed to her red eye.

i asked how it happened and she said some boys were running around like aeroplanes and ran past her hitting her in the eye. she thinks its deliberate because they didnt stop and say sorry. to me that sounds accidental and no big deal. she doesnt seem traumatised in anyway.

dh thinks that i should talk to the school i think its making a big deal over nothing. what do you think?

so clearly every one else is a bit meh about it then

Did a first aider check her over?

I agree that it was probably an accident, but my concern would be if the school had not given her a cold compress and checked her eye afterwards.

no the school hadnt noticed and dd hadnt bothered telling them. thats what worrying dh that they didnt notice. but it is only really minor. it took me a while to notice it.

her dance teacher wasnt sure if it was a black eye or that she was tired but she did notice and ask about it. a lot quicker than i did actually

If you didn't notice it, it's probably not really surprising that the school didn't and I wouldn't make an issue of it from that point of view.

It sounds like an accident to me, but it wouldn't hurt to have a word with the school - more about your daughter's reluctance to tell anyone than anything else. Perhaps they can speak to the children in assembly about (a) being more careful and considerate and (b) asking for help when they need it.

It is a difficult situation, and easily done, especially if dd did not say anything.

It would not hurt to drop a note to school saying could they keep an eye on her (excuse the pun) due to what happened.

Then you are not being a neurotic mum, but you are subtly telling them that they missed a first aid incident

well i didnt want to come as across as being that fussy mum who complains over everything.

re her not telling them. she doesnt always tell me when she has hurt herself. she said she didnt tell them because it didnt really hurt and she was playing.

Schools generally feel that it's important that any bump to the head, face or eye is looked at though, no matter how small the child thinks it is. Accidents in the playground like this are really easy to miss (I'm a lunchtime supervisor; you can't be watching every single child for every minute of playtime so accidents are not always easily seen, particularly when the child who is hurt doesn't make a fuss) so I wouldn't make a point about them missing an injury - I would expect them, though, to make sure that the children knew how important it is to let someone know when they are hurt.

WigWam puts it very well, and if you phrase it the way she suggests the school should not get offended.