The legal test for EOTAS/EOTIS, is that it is inappropriate for provision to be made in a school (or college or early years provider). You will need evidence of this. Previous placements not working doesn’t on its own prove this. Not all who have had multiple placement breakdowns will meet the test.
EOTAS/EOTIS packages are bespoke to the individual. The possibilities are endless. Some examples include tuition (doesn’t have to be formal tuition and doesn’t have to be academically focused. Can be 1:1 or group. Can be online or F2F.), therapies (e.g. SALT, OT, physio, animal-assisted, art therapies, rebound, CBT, EMDR…), APs (there are lots of these but can be e.g. care farms, forest schools, outward bounds AP, gaming AP…) exercise/sport, mentoring, cookery, accessing the community, music/drama lessons, equipment, technology and assistive tech, resources, memberships and subscriptions, professional time (for things like preparing for and attending review meetings, leading and co-ordinating the package, planning, training, etc.).
What provision packages contain depends on what provision is in F of the EHCP to meet the needs in B of the EHCP. In turn, these are rooted in evidence. There are lots of options in SW London (and the surrounding areas because many travel for the right provision. And online.) but it will depend on what provision is in F because not most providers offer specific types of provision.
Many have to appeal for a proper EOTAS/EOTIS package, I’m afraid.
I have 2 DSs with EOTAS/EOTIS/C; it isn’t the easy option.