School called social service saying I drink . I can not drink medically .

[Ewrika]

I made a complaint about school on Friday .
Monday 9am they emailed 10 pages of lies to SS.
including “mum is drinking ? “
And many other lies against me that I can all back it up with solid material that they are lying .

the funny thing is due to medical physical Gastro reason I can’t drink . My GP knows it .

I can’t believe private school here lie about anything for revenge.

Now this social worker saying to me above GP wording is funny and what if she asking for assessment now for both . And what if doctor is unaware of undiagnosed issue .

shall I ask judicial review for this social service who are so so so easily influenced by ex team leader who no longer works there but for my school now , for defamation about my drug drink mental health internally .

Is a&e discharge summary report good enough WORDING to prove my mental health to this SS?

So now SS are more educated than a doctor to comment on their wording as "funny"? I am not saying all doctors are highly competent and i have met a couple who were incompetent and I raised objection but surely it's for a patient to raise objection if that's the case, if ss finds it funny then they need to raise it with the gp themselves.

"Then she trying to self defence saying :
Doctor said there is none mental history know to him. But didn’t say if now they assess u what they will find"
This can be applicable for anyone isn't? If I were you I would have been tempted to say that "after all these baseless allegations my mental health has been impacted for sure, it will be disturbing for any normal person to hear such baseless allegations" and then you should have also said "may be I will go to the gp and tell them that how your baseless allegations about my drinking and mental health has really impacted my mental health", I am sure that would have shut her up. Please complain about the worker so that they don't treat anyone like this again.

In this country , while this thing going really absurd now ,
can she even demand to assess my head with council own psychologist or do a on spot alcohol blood test just to cover herself if judicial review on her irrationality behaviour ?

I have no problem with even blood test but I told her I am confused why burden is on my shoulder to prove I am not . Burden should be on her shoulder to prove I am.

( she did ask my consent to access to Gp
a month ago first time we chat , while she was yelling at me . I said no )

now she told me she has no influence on admission .
I said well , if you are so so so keen to want to speak to new school and tell them my kid is in disstress from old school . You may as well speak to admission now , they will tell u when which school we will be starting .

Shall I now mention judicial review .
i don’t know in this country how crazy things can develop .

or shall I go to my GP … as I am now REALLY harassed with so many calls from old school head and Esply old school calling this SS to harass me also . And this SS won’t let go of I am drunk nut.

I can’t even live in peace with my kid and EHCP outcome is in 2 weeks .

I heard in this country. If a mum went to gp asking for any mental health help like I am so stressed or I need Valium . Gp will call social worker .
As worrying mum is too stressed to take care of the kid .

right ?

so a mum can’t even be stressed by SS .

I wanted to let this go . Now I feel I need to take this to SEND tribunal to the bottom of this . Against school

What if she say : you are stressed now ? I am child social worker .
Now let me call adult social worker to visit you ?

Even doctors cannot assess you without your consent, does the ss worker even understand basic legalities? Ask her to assess herself for being this malicious and pathologically lying. Next time just say, that you need to speak to your lawyer before you do anything, that will scare her off. I have realised that you need to be assertive (not rude) with these kinda people otherwise they will not let it go. Its like a game to them. Fortunately, I never had any ss involvement but I had a negative school experience, a couple of teachers were just crazy, especially one in particular. Left England for good for my child's better private education abroad. We will be back once she will have to go to the University.
You need to be very direct whilst speaking to her - ask, what's the issue now? GP has already confirmed about mental health and alcohol and that you are planning to complain about these baseless allegations. Be very clear while complaining.

You might have heard this, but it's not true. They refer to SS only if they think parental health makes them unsafe to parent.

You need to let this go. Your behaviour is clearly being seen as erratic. From your posts on here, I can see why. You are very confident at asserting things that are not accurate. You are very angry with the school. All of these can make it look as if you might be unstable. I don't think you are, I think you just have a feisty personality! But you have come across in that way to multiple people.

Your son wants to just move on.

She was also fishing who is on birth certificate. What is ur next new school .
if you don’t answer . This will be red flag I can’t help you to close this case .

cases like this never surface up in the end because people drop it half way .
The one in the end reached court will all come out in the sun shine . justice will be there in the end .

if I can’t get those remarks about my mental health off this SS company , I am waiting for answer from them now . I may as well go to court .

I have been to high court and won.
So this workload is ok for me .

It's ok if you wanna complain, there is nothing wrong in seeking justice, I have done it in a totally unrelated circumstances but you need to be very clear, instead of answering to their questions which is a deflection strategy, you need to ask them questions - eg, "what's the issue now because myself and the gp has already confirmed about this and this.", if she tries deflecting, tell them "it's not relevant".

Thanks for concerning my kid .
My DC is clueless of all these cheap drama. DC is simply happy to go to new school .

I will be the one filling all paper work to court at home during school time .

so what ? This is now my personality assassination?
culture biased judgment ? ( if I am from hot tempered country, now this is my culture ?) feisty foreigner ?
as well as my mental health ? Approved by British Gp and British nhs Not good enough for ss?

Well let the court decide then .
shall we .

Yes I said : sorry hold on why you calling me just to talk about my mental health ?
she: ah ok let s come back to this later .
( which she never did ) .

then about father :
she : who is dad ? If he nearby ? Which country ?

me: is this relevant ?
she : ok who is on birth certificate?

then with telling new school .
me: no no consent . We have moved on . New school new start .

she : no no no this will be red flags . I promise u I will only say 1 sentence : kid is in distress from previous school . pls support kid .

me: fine .

She did try something in the beginning :
hey did u go to police station?
Me : what ? Where did u get that from
she : so u went to police ?
u took ur kid to police ? Together?

me: No . I wrote to them . Alone .

which is true ofcoz .

i feel she will then say : you expose ur kid into police station ? You cause your kid stress !!

alike last time . The way she did .

"she : no no no this will be red flags . I promise u I will only say 1 sentence : kid is in distress from previous school . pls support kid "

Tell her that you need it in writing as you have lost trust because of the baseless allegations which can be proved as malicious if taken to the court otherwise all this nonsense will be carried forward to the other school too and it's important for the child's welfare that their parent is not accused of malicious lies.

Email from head after I reported this to head of board of trustees.

Thank you for your email. I have looked into this with the team.

I can assure you that we have not raised any concerns with the authorities about any drinking problems.

and I have FOI print in front of me . Solid evidence.

Sorry I meant I reported the head to chair of trustees .
then now head replying lying : no such thing . Cc in chair of trustees & ceo .

Email the copy of FOI print to them as evidence so that they know the head is still lying.

I found this :

https://www.socialworkengland.org.uk/about/feedback-and-complaints/

I could make complaint now of that ex team leader who left social service 2 years ago now working in school who called ex collegues still inside social service 20 times on me to say i have “ undiagnosed mental health issue “ and drinking issue .
this is misleading and corrupted influence

New update:

We moved on in life , and luckily got into a new state school nearby home .
Which is an amazing school & top ones in the country .

and today new head and safe guarding officer called me in showing me a pile of print out with red marks on them saying they r from ex Prviate school . Who managed to hunt down my new state school and wrote all bad things about us

So what ex private did is :
while we were de-registering . They called social worker in my borough again the 10th time to report us we are missing for 20 days ( half term holiday ) .
and demand to know referal feedback about our new school .

there was a 2 weeks gap between old school and new school .
no one knows where we will end up in .

it seems like an insider job .
my borough called me during the gap period warned me and threatened me : you must give us consent to contact your future new school to tell them your kid suffering from distress from ur old school . Just 1 line . Not over sharing. Nothing else . Or else we will red flag u .

I said ok .

now the ex private finally got the new school contact information and oversharing lots lots made up stories .

new state head :

he won’t show me what is written from ex private . He said pls just ask ur ex school for disclosure . not us .
He said : I just wana be transparent about this .
I can’t share with u their print out , but just go through with u right now a few points what they raised .
like :
no arrive late . no leave early . Must uniform . Any thing you would like us for extra provision?
Me : ofcoz no problem .
we happy with everything .
no expectations.
if EHCP is successful then that’s between council and school .
so far we are happy with everything

he : great . That’s it .

Ofcoz with ex private they will never disclose anything , even complained they to ICO .
nothing works . They just never do SAR FOI

And I don’t want to drag new school into this ex drama .
so i don’t want to push for sar foi with new school

Schools are required to pass safeguarding information on.

So the old school did the right thing in demanding to know where he was and sending on the files.

It's good that it sounds like you have a positive relationship with the new headteacher.