Sleep regression in previously sleep-trained toddler after returning home

[Debbieray]

Hey everyone I’d love your advice. My daughter two next week was sleep trained and happily fell asleep independently (even while we were unexpectedly living in Wales to care for my mum for a few months).

Since coming home a month ago she wants me to stay in the room while she falls asleep and wakes 1–2 times a night checking I’m there. If I go in she falls back to sleep.

Bedtime is now taking 90 minutes and I’m exhausted, if I try to leave the room she says she’s scared and clings on to me. She wakes around 6:45–7:00, naps from around 12:30–2:00, and usually doesn’t fall asleep until 8:30–8:40 with me staying in the room, if stay she’s happy chatting away about the day.

If your previously sleep-trained toddler regressed around this age, did you get strict and go back to your original sleep training routine, or did you stay with them until it passed? What actually worked? I don’t know how to get her to feel confident again.

I’d say shes ready to have a shorter nap with a view to stopping, that’s why bedtime takes ages, shes not tired enough. We always lie with our toddler in her bed til shes asleep-just do what works. Sleep training seems like so much hassle to me!

Thanks for sharing, yes I’ve been wondering if the nap is too long. I tried making it 1 hour but she still needed 6+ hours before being ready for bed. When she has 1.5hrs she’s hard to wake.

Yeah mine wakes much easier if her nap is under 1 hour. I think they go into deeper sleep after that. Often mine has her nap in car or buggy anyway so it’s naturally shorter, she is also 22 months, she can easily cope on 30 min nap.