Baby won't sleep more than 3 hours

[Dotty1000]

Please help with any suggestions...,
I'm exhausted and due back from maternity leave in a few weeks.
Baby is 9 months old has good bedtime routine goes down no problem.
She has 2 naps during the day between 1-2 hours again goes down no problem and wakes up happy.
Every single night she wakes about every 2/3 hours we put her dummy back in and she goes straight back to sleep.
She's perfectly capable of putting her own dummy in but won't do it during the night.
Have tried letting her cry it out but she just gets hysterical, stands in her cot and difficult to calm down.
Also she's in our bedroom but we don't have the option of her own room, any daytime noise/light doesn't disturb her daytime naps so not sure it could be that during the night.
Please any advice I don't know what else to try....
Also she's not hungry eats plenty and milk and hasn't needed milk during the night for a long time now

Could you try weaning off the dummy? Does she need it for all sleep? Presuming you’ve tried having lots in the cot for her to grab, and glow in the dark ones that are easy to find.

Thanks for the reply :) yes put several dummies in the cot including glow in the dark ones but she throws them out of then cot so end up scrabbling around trying to find them...
Have thought about weaning her off but not sure how to go about this, how long it take etc, my other 2 kids never had a dummy.

I'm not sure this is terribly helpful but waking every 2-3 hours is well within the realm of normal for a 9 month old and if all she needs is her dummy putting back in to get back to sleep, it could be worse. If you're struggling with tiredness, you could go to bed earlier if that's possible.

You may want to wean her off the dummy in the next few months to reduce the impact on her teeth but this may make sleep worse.

This sounds really normal I’m afraid to tell you. Mine kept waking every 2-3 hours until he was around 13 months old and then suddenly just slept through. So you might not experience a gradual shift to longer stretches and fewer wakes, LO might just go from every 2-3 hours to one night just sleeping 12 hours without warning.

Sounds like an absolute dream tbh. Totally normal for their age.
my LO sleeps about 3 hours a night and has done for over a year due to having enlarged tonsils and adenoids. She’s been diagnosed with sleep apnea.
You sound like you have it good which is amazing! Early night might help you get a couple
of hours extra sleep.
weaning off the dummy will
help eventually but you might find their sleep is worse to begin with while they adjust.

My son didnt sleep through til he was 3. The babies 9 months old and does sleep in 3 hour blocks PLUS 2 naps. Sounds good to me ....and normal

Sounds completely normal. Try weaning off the dummy if you think that's causing the issue. I'll let you know when my 6 year old starts sleeping through!

Have you tried white noise? I bought a white noise machine for around £20 and it helps my 1 year old and my 5 year old sleep

If she’s in your room are you disturbing her?
are you snoring/moving?

Surprises me that she doesn't need milk during the night!

It might be worth feeding her as could make her last a bit longer? My 10mo wakes for one feed at 11pm and her next isn't until 6ish

Honestly, this is pretty normal.

Urgh I remember this well. My 2020 baby was the same. I ended up weaning off the dummy and everything improved. Took about 3 days in total. Completely cold turkey

Thank you all so much for the replies, maybe I have been spoilt with my other 2 who were much better sleepers than this...
I think I will wean off the dummy once I'm back at work and she's settled at nursery.
Thanks to everyone who took the time to reply x

My eldest didn’t sleep through consistently until he was 8.
my daughter was a much worse sleeper as a baby but slept through consistently by 2 and still now at 5 is the best sleeper in the house. About to add a third to the mix!

its hard, but it is very normal. And I agree I’d try milk through the night personally. But only having to wake to pop a dummy in really is an absolute dream!! My daughter it would take me over an hour to feed her and get her back into bed every 2/3 hours. My eldest I didn’t feed through the night and often he would be awake for hours, he’d take the dummy and I’d try and leave and he’d scream, I’d cuddle and then give him dummy and try and leave and he’d scream. It was a nightmare. I wish I’d just fed him tbh!
if she takes the dummy rolls over and goes back to sleep you really have lucked out!!!!

My granddaughter never slept through the night until around 4. Gave up her dummy and bingo she slept. I guess at the moment I’d just pop the dummy back in and go back to sleep. Xx

My second was the same and ended up in the bed with me but the correct answer is probably to give up the dummy cold turkey! Though I know that won’t be easy. I personally wouldn’t give milk in the night at this age because then you’ve got another issue of trying to give that up. I feel like this age can be very up and down sleep wise and she may just settle down soon anyway.

Two naps during the day ..????????
Get baby busy, preferably OUT MINGLING with others during the morning..
Then home for Lunch
Nap after lunch.
Then Evening Meal.
Bath.
Bed.
Sleep till 7 am ( right through)
No interactions upon waking during the night.
If baby wakes just check ok but No actions.
If dummy is problem wean off dummy.

This is normal baby. Most 9 month olds don’t sleep through the night

@Vonesk most babies don’t go to 1 nap until around 12 months or even older. 2 naps is normal for a 9mo. Refusing to interact with your crying baby at night is abusive. Night waking is developmentally normal until much older than this, not something to punish

So normal! (Sorry!)

if have Instagram secondstarttotheright has some fabulous tips.

could baby be to cold or hot ? Especially if similar time maybe the ambient temperature is dropping and waking them.

i would try offer milk at 9months still.

Have you tried reducing daytime naps to one nap for an hour and a half after lunch then doing a dream feed about 10pm. Both mine used to then go through until 6am.

This is totally normal. However he may be hungry, for the dummy take it away now. If you wait til you go back to work you are going to be exhausted as he wont sleep well for a coupe of nights, you dont wean him off you just take it away, the younger the better. They forget it quicker

Hi

my daughter was similar but we bought a sleepy tot dummy teddy and to made a huge difference, she located it far easier and the amount of gets ups dropped significantly. Just an idea if you aren’t ready to loose the dummy

It sounds terrible and I don't actually think it's 'normal' to be honest. It may be within the bounds of developmentally normal but I think most 9 month olds sleep better than that. I've never understood how so many people tell you to buck up and accept that older babies wake every few hours - you must be on your knees with exhaustion because every 2-3 hours is newborn territory! It sounds like it could be pretty simple - baby is dependant on the dummy so that's the problem you need to solve - getting her to settle without it. You could try to do it for naps first and then daytime sleep. It might only take a few days (admittedly a few days of hell but....). Also agree with white noise and a lovey toy as other options. If you could afford it a sleep consultant might help. Also MORE naps and not less (or longer naps) is often the unintuitive answer.

I’m sorry but I think this is ok. 3 hour stretches is normal for many 9 month olds.
Mine slept 1 hour max at this age and sometimes in just 30 minute chunks 🥴