Starting to feel resentful of my baby

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Firstly I know this is totally unreasonable but I can't help it. LO is 4 months and has gone from waking 1 or 2 times a night for a feed to waking 5-6 times. I try to resettle but she usually only calms with some milk but obviously as she's not hungry she has about 60ml. She is up for the day without fail at 5am as nothing will resettle her once the light is up.

I know she's tiny and it's most likely a sleep regression but I can't function. It takes so long for me to get back to sleep and with barely 2 hours between wakes I feel as if I get no rest at all. I've got a toddler who gets up as well at 6 and I'm on all day.

I'm almost certain she doesn't have gas as she settles when you pick her up. She knows how to sleep by herself without rocking or feeding to sleep and naps well in the day. We can't co sleep and I don't breastfeed. Is there anything I can do to help her resettle herself?

Is she warm enough? Have you tried some lullabies/baby sleep music? You could always try some baby rice before bed as a last resort to see if that might help. I appreciate early weaning isn’t for everyone but it helped my baby sleep slightly longer…also when you’re back home could you put in own room? All of you being in the same room at home might not be helping, you might all be waking each other up? But appreciate going into own room at this age again isn’t for everyone

I think you probably need to follow a consistent plan -have you considered a sleep consultant ? I found Dana Obleman useful and inexpensive. Doing multiple things ..ie feed/changing nappy /taking in your bed or not might not be helpful. Following one strategy (ie not picking up, not talking, pitch black, patting bum), might make things less interesting and baby less likely to wake. Really sorry it's so tough

Yes speaking to a sleep consultant on 6th when we're home. Agree the switching isn't changing. I'd like her in her own room but we live in a 3 bed and her sister has one and her dad the other so he can work uninterrupted hence why we're together as well as it being recommended for her age. The plan was for her to go in with her sister but not until she's waking less frequently.