It's ridiculous. It's our fault I am sure. A typical night looks like this:
Ds1, 3.5, goes to bed between 7 and 8. I stay in there with him while he falls asleep. He also still breastfeeds before settling down in bed (not to sleep). He wakes anywhere between 12 and 4 and either comes into our bed. Sometimes his dad will go in with him (on the floor) and he will fall back asleep but he always wakes again and comes into our bed and wants to be bf. Any resistance to this is met with major tantrums, meltdowns etc. Then wake anywhere between 5 and 6.30.
Ds2, 15months, usually is asleep between 7 and 7.30. He is bf to sleep. He wakes 2-3 times a night. Dad can sometimes settle him but usually he needs me to bf him again. He often won't be put down for up to two hours. on the 2/3 wake meaning one of us is usually up between 2-4. Wakes between 5 and 6.30 as well.
HELP. We are tired, my tits are tired. I don't want to bf 3.5 yo anymore really but it helps enormously with his emotional regulation and shit hits the fan when refused. And I feel mean doing so :(. DH getting seriously miserable with it. I think we need to get tough with the 3.5yo and do something with the 15month old. Not sure where to start. We already have blackout blinds, white noise, gro-clocks etc.