My DD is 6mo. She'll go to sleep in the crib in her own room 7.30-8pm and stay asleep until 12. I'll usually give her a feed at this point. Then after that is when the problem starts. She'll be wide awake, wanting to play and can't be shushed or patted to sleep. Leaving her to self sooth in her crib doesn't work she just cries. This can go on for 2-3 hours. Last night it went on until 3.30 when I just gave up and put her in bed with me. Even then she takes awhile to settle.
I really don't know the right thing to do for that middle of the night waking when she won't go back to sleep on her own.