3.5 year old terrible sleep

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My 3.5 year old has never, ever slept through the night. Not once. I don't know what to do. She comes and gets in our bed every night. I really can't see the wood for the trees and I don't know how to get out of this awful situation. She's basically coming into our bed some nights before we're even asleep.

I've tried everything I can think of but she seems to sleep so restlessly all night whether we are in bed with her or not.

Does anyone have any advice? She's an anxious little thing and I think we are making it worse!

Bumping after a horrific nights sleep!

Stair gate on her door? I’m considering the same honestly.

What to do about the screaming/crying that will follow though? And she will. I feel like such a shit parent!

I'd explain to her what you're doing and then just leave her to it. Maybe pop your head in once or twice and be really boring or just talk to her through the baby monitor (if you still have one). Don't give in and don't negotiate with terrorists.