Please Help. I feel so lost :(

[TallulahTaboo]

Firstly, thank you for reading. Just like my title explains, please help, I feel beyond lost. My LO won't sleep through the night. And I know this i is a completely normal but this has been ongoing for months.

My LO used to be a fab sleeper, 10/12 hours a night sometimes and since the 5 month sleep regression, he wakes every night. He's nearly 8 months.

And I feel I've tried everything (or maybe not?) and I'm still no further forward. Ive tried allowing him to nap long, nap short, an early bedtime, a late bedtime and still nothing seems to work. We have a routine in for bed and have had that since he was a newborn and never had any bother putting him down. Naps are good too, maybe 1/5 are a struggle but he always goes down.

What am I doing wrong? Am I not doing enough? Should I be calling in a sleep consultant? I should say I bought Just Chill Mamas online course, done everything and still nothing!

He's not got new teeth coming through, he's not ill.... I'm nearly at breaking point. And not to mention how mentally I feel like a failure (I know I'm not but I feel like it) especially when all my friends little ones who are similar ages are sleeping through.

And people who say 'it's just a phase' are probably absolutely right but if doesn't help.

Can anyone suggest anything else? Am I doing something wrong?

Glad it worked for you! Does your lo get overtired now?

@Fancyties LO is definitely ready for her sleep when it comes and can get a bit irritable / grouchy. But never overtired to the point where she CAN'T sleep if you know what I mean

Yep I get you! Do you still wake lo after certain time with naps. Sorry for questions Im interested x

@Fancyties yes, I never let her nap longer than an hour. And if she naps for less - eg goes down at 9:30 and wakes at 10, the 2:30 nap remains the same, it doesn't get brought forward etc.

It's advice I got from a sleep consultant called Good Night Baby based in Devon (although all over the phone). It was a one off £75 fee and the best money I have ever spent. I wish I'd done it months ago! I would have happily paid that for even one night of sleep 🤣

How old is your lo?

Hahaha yes! I understand how you feel at times x

@Fancyties 8 months

That's amazing. I'm impressed. I used to cut first nap to 1 hour to help early waking and it did, but we stopped it when we went onto 2 naps a day. As thought she needed it as losing late afternoon one. Definitely going to rethink a little.

We do 945 (moved in last couple days to this time as wakes at 615am which is not bad I know but 3hrs seems to be her point in the morning as by 920am she's tired and clingy ) and was told to push morning nap later for a later rise. So will stick with 945 for a bit. Usually wakes around 11even if we put her down at 930 like we usually do.

Then yesterday we put her down at 2pm as she's full of cold atm and so am I. I couldn't entertain her for another 30 mins (usual time 230pm sleep) I was hanging by 2pm. Sleeps varies from 1.5 hours to 2 hours 🤷🏼‍♀️ 8pm bed.

Thank you for sharing. That's really interesting to know x

@Fancyties give it a go and see how you get on! I would try bringing bedtime forward too. Good luck and please do let me know!

Thank you. I won't do it until she is over her cold and cough. I feel rough so she must do too!

@jemimafuddleduck sorry for the late reply, had an awful night on Monday (LO awake from 12-2.30 then up at 5.20am) but a good night last night with only one wake.

Thank you for your advice and comments. I'll see if I can stretch his WW out but he becomes so grumpy when he's tired. I did think snoot getting in a sleep consultant but I didn't think I was at that stage... maybe I am!? 🤦🏽‍♀️

@TallulahTaboo I'm sorry you had a tough night but glad last night was better!

I would highly recommend the sleep consultant I recommended earlier. I wish I'd don't it months ago honestly.

Does he have a gro bag on?