Considering "uncontrolled crying" but would appreciate your opinions first.

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7.5 month DS will settle straightawy in night if I give him even just 3 mins of breast milk.

If I give him water, and reassure him with a cuddle he stops crying instantly, but as soon as I put him down he shouts again, until I give him some breast milk.

He is therefore usingbreast milk in the night not for food, but fr comfort.

I am knackered, so tried controlled crying.This goes on for 1.5 hours.

So considering just not going in to him.

Is this cruel? Should I just continue to give him breast milk?

Any comments appreciated.

Thank you.

Monkeytrousers - for all of the babies they probably slept through 90% of the time once they started sleeping through, having more disturbed sleep after/while traveling or sickness etc. But they did go back to sleeping through after 2-3 days of waking nights. And of course if they were upset I would comfort them.

I don't consider myself a hardcore sleep trainer in fact I go more on the child's personality and fit in with that. I make sure their daytime routine allows for quiet times(naps), good eating and exercise and fun and most important love.

When I got baby five to sleep through she had been waking every two hours from 10-7am to BF. So when I had her with me I when she woke I offered her water and would cuddle in bed with her and gradually(within a week) she was sleeping longer and longer.

Baby six was in his own daytime routine but waking up to BF so the night that I start to sleep train I thought I was in for a long hard night. He cried for 15 mins then I went in and then he cried on and off for another 30mins and then he went to sleep. If he had of continued to cry solidly after the first 15mins I would have comforted him.

My current baby after up his bottles to 200mls, this morning he slept until after 7am and gave me the cutest happy squeal when I opened the curtains this morning.

I think it's ok to leave a baby to cry, as a sole charge nanny I had to especially if I had older charges as well. When I sleep train I think 15 mins is a good starting point, none of my babies have screamed them selves hoarse and when I walk in I only have to talk to them and they calm down.

Also none show long term signs of emotional distress or detachement(the oldest is now nine). It really is best to choose a plan for each family/child.