SLEEP IS FOR THE WEAK PART 8 -- Pack the bags under your eyes and join us!

[RoRoMommy]

Well...I had to think of something! DH's suggestion "Eyes wide shut--the art of sleepwalking"

just FYI

(((Ro)))

Not sure what else to say, just that we're here for you (also ginger/CM/others who aren't having a great time just now).

(((Ro)))

Not sure what else to say, just that we're here for you (also ginger/CM/others who aren't having a great time just now).

Thanks, CSB. The holidays are a difficult time for this kind of problem, I think.

Anyway, as far as sleeping goes, last night wasn't bad. My mum kept DS in her bed until my boobs were about to burst at 3:45, so I got two hours x two of sleep without baby rolling around next to me! It was lovely. I think I've been reprogrammed now to sleep in two hour stretches...

Feeling a bit rough today from party last night, and a bit as a co-worker reminded me that I was walking around saying "I'm so drunk..." as if they couldn't tell already.

I read that as "... until her boobs were about to burst" ... was a bit then ... now !

Ro I can't give you any constructive advice, but i wanted to echo CSB and say I'm thinking of you and give you a bog cyber (((hug))).
(Passes Ro an Alker Seltzer and big bar of chocolate)

I actually previewed that message but only read bog when it was too late . Sorry obviously meant to type big

RRM, sorry you're going through that. I've no experience but I used to be a smoker and I know as an ex 'addict' you have to want to stop the behaviour yourself. My DH's dissapointment in me was so much more effective than the arguments. Big hugs to you. Also I'd suggest managing it and going for the detox in Feb as I think the pressure of new years resolutions and all that are just too much and if you slip up it feels like such a failing.

I'm sorry I can't stick around for longer but work is calling.....sorry

RoRo, big hugs from me. I think you're right, the holidays are a time when social drinking can slip into problem drinking, esp. if there are other issues at stake.

Many years ago I dated a proper full-on alcoholic (not for v long!) and it was hideous. He was lovely when sober and a total monster when drunk. If you think your DH has a real problem then it may be too much for you to tackle alone and you should consider getting some outside support -- maybe chat to your GP if you can?

Glad to see you are still with us Meg

How are you RoRo? My mum stayed with us for 4 months last year after my step father died . We are very close and at times my DH said it was like having two wives (not in an icky sense!!!). Could this be causing him some stress?

Hi

Can i join in? 2 hours sleep last night and have been up since 3am feeding a fretful baby!! My nips are starting to feel tender!!!

of course RGPARGY, here is your honourary badge and a cup of v.v.v. strong coffee. how old is LO?

Ro - i'm so sorry for you. hope things will improve, sorry i cant be more helpful, but echo what everyone else says, we're here for you whatever you need!

have been up since 1am today! i'm offically shattered. had sickness til 3am, then a baby from quarter past being rather restless!

Thanx Ally. Need all the help i can get!! DD is only 2 weeks old so no real sleeping pattern established yet. I had to remind myself of her age this morning because i keep thinking of her as older lol.

How old is your LO?

RoRo . Drink problems are tough, esp as a certain level of drinking is socially acceptable, esp at this time of year. It must be hard for those with addictive personalities (yep, married to one of those) to tell what is OK and what is not. I also think fatherhood can be incredibly stressful, without the support that mothers have from HVs, baby groups, family etc. etc. If you're a man you're supposed to just get on with it (but pull your weight, of course). Would your DH consider counselling? Sounds like the drinking might be a symptom rather than a cause IYSWIM.

Thanks, Meg and Beal. He definitely wouldn't go to counseling about the drinking, but maybe about our relationship. We went twice and the counselor was like, boy you two really know how to communicate......and DH was of course on his very best behavior. Bah.

Yesterday evening was lovely, and DS slept really well last night, too, so I suppose I should be thankful that my boys are being so nice to me!

Captain, that is definitely true of DH. He had a similar breakdown when I was pg, then right after DS was born, and now, 9 months later. He has a hard time dealing with emotion because he feels one should just get on with things. But there is a sensitive side of him that realizes this isn't the most productive or effective way to go.

Welcome RGPARGY, and congratulations on your sweet little LO! I don't even remember anything about that stage except that I was exhausted all of the time...which perhaps is why I don't remember anything...

Thanx LDBM! I remember (vaguely) with DS that this stage went really quickly and i couldn't wait for him to reach the next milestone all the time. Despite the rough night last night, i'm just really happy to absorb every moment of every day with DD and i certainly wont be wishing her to her next stage of development!

Sorry to hear that you are having a rough time with DH.

Beal my love you're expertise is needed on this thread

Hurray, las day at work for me! Good thing too. DS's sleep not too bad atm but I have severe earache and so finding it hard to get to sleep despite drugs . Just taken another pill and waiting for it to kick in GP says no underlying problem, so just have to wait it out.

RoRo: welll done on getting your DH to counselling before, my DH is highly suspicious of the whole thing! I hope things settle down for you over Christmas.

Ginger: hope your DH is also feeling better. Roll on the weekend

CV - glad LO sleeping well, sorry you're not tho hun!

RoRo - really hope you have a quiet christmas!

ginger - thanks for the link, it made me feel quite useful

ds1 sleeping through again, until 7:30, bloody hell, he;'s done it last 2 mornings...wow. ds2 we dont even talk about that anymore, but i'll just say i'm shattered!

Morning, been awake since 5.30 so a little sleepy today!

CV, glad DS is sleeping better. How is the sleeping-in-cot plan coming along? Bah humbug for festive illness, though. I have another cold so feeling pretty crap myself

Beal, hope you didn't have another 1am start!

Hi to everyone else . Everyone finished their Xmas shopping yet??

not started meg!!!

sorry for your early start, did LO sleep through tho?

Hi all. Sorry haven't been posting much, not much excitement to report anyway, and trying to do last few Christmassy things.

Hope sickly SIFTWers, DH/Ps and DCs are all in improving health.

DS's nighttime sleep been ok-ish but I now have insomnia

Never mind!

hi all
hope all is well in the land of siftw.
been busy visiting and shopping lately so havent had much chance to post. hope everyone getting some sleep.
catch you all later.

Hi everyone! We're off to budapest tomorrow for the holidays, I'll miss you all! I hope you have great sleep and lovely food and good times with your loved ones. See you in the New Year!

xxx