22 months waking through the night

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Suggestions welcome please- i am so so sooooo tired!!!

My little girl is 22 months and wakes several times through the night, every night. I don’t know where I’m going wrong. I go in to her, either lay her back down or tell her to snuggle back down, it’s sleepy time. But working 5 minutes she’s back up again. We’ve tried ignoring her, she asks for milk so will end up giving her a milk which usually settles her for another couple of hours. She still has a dummy but we try and use this as a last resort. I just don’t know where I’m going wrong-

Wakes up 5-6am
Naps 11-2:30
Bedtime 7pm

Bedtime is always the same calm routine.

I have tried a later nap, shorter nap but neither make a difference- she’s just miserable with no nap.

Help?!

We use the Jo Frost method of controlled timed crying which has worked wonders. Put her down for bed as normal, when she starts crying wait 2 mins and go in, lay her back down without picking her up or talking, walk back out and then wait 4 mins and do the same routine doubling the time each time (so 2 mins, 4 mins, 8 mins etc). The first 2 mins of crying is always the worst but mine got the hint after 8 mins and just went back to sleep.

Sorry I should've also mentioned that our method shouldn't be used if she's unwell or teething etc - has she been a good sleeper previously?

I wonder whether her nap might be a bit long? 3.5 hrs in the day is quite a lot. Maybe she's not particularly tired? Other than that it sounds like she's used to having a drink of milk to soothe her back to sleep. From what I understand, it's completely normal for all of us to have brief periods of wakefulness in the night but where we might roll over and go back to sleep, she's got used to having some milk. The only problems with that are that milk several times a night isn't great for her teeth and it requires you to get up to get it for her.
So I think it might well help to wean her off the milk. Its up to you how you would prefer to do that. Pp suggestion of controlled crying may well work but you might not be comfortable letting your dd cry like that. You could also try watering down the milk progressively until it's just water, then leaving a drink of water in the cot for her that she can help herself to. With my dd when I wanted to stop feeding her in the night I just lay down by her cot instead and held her hand until she went to sleep. It took about 1.5 hours but didn't involve much crying and she has almost always slept through the night since then.