Help 14 weeks sleep regression

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Hello my dd has entered the dreaded sleep regression. She is waking every 1.5 hours through the night. Before this she was waking at 2 and 5 for a ten min breastfeed then straight back to sleep. I think it’s all my fault, she feeds to sleep, and will fall asleep on me within minutes, she can’t fall asleep by herself. I have read so much on the internet that I am confused. She has a dummy. Any advice would be great, annoyed with myself as everyone says ‘you can’t spoil a baby’ I feel like I am now paying for this.

Our routine is currently messed up due to Christmas holidays, normally we do the school run (her in a baby carrier) 8.10-9 then 13.30-15.30 she was generally waking at 7.30 asleep on the walk, nap about mind morning (11ish) nap on the second walk then about 5ish then bed (asleep on me downstairs) 19.30 then upstairs to bed 22.00. Now it’s all gone to crap and no one is sleeping

Is she taking a feed every 1.5h through the night? It might be that calorific need has gone up significantly and she's making up for missed calories at night.

She feeds properly twice, about ten mins each time, with gulps and swallows (my letdown is still painful) the other times she sucks for a few mins enough for my letdown, she then either comes off the boob and screams if I try to put her near it. Or just spits the milk out. I am sure she is just using it for comfort (other than the two feeds). I think I need tips for helping her fall asleep without me cuddling her/feeding her to sleep. It’s hard to know as I am so exhausted and desperate.

Could you do a dummy/nipple swap? So feed until she seems to be dropping off and then whip nipple out and dummy in. Keep her in cradle hold though and cuddle.

Then over time swap for a dummy sooner and put down sooner.