SLEEP IS FOR THE WEEK part 7 -- prop your eyes open with matchsticks here

[MegBusset]

Zzzzzzzzzzzzz...

if i'm organised i might be able to head out for a little bit on the 30th... let me think about what i need to do!

EP, when I was cutting down on night feeds, I concentrated on pushing the first feed back as much as possible. So if one night he didn't feed til midnight, I would try the next night not to feed til half past, etc. I didn't worry too much about how often I fed after that.

Gawd knows what'll happen once his illness is gone, though -- tbh I don't relish the idea of starting again, especially as it did involve a little crying (while I was there with him) on a few nights, and DH is very crying-resistant ("Why don't you just feed him? Or give him the dummy?").

Think I will have to skip the next meet-up as apparently bronchiolitis can be contagious for up to three weeks, and I'm sure Amber doesn't want to be travelling to the other side of the world with a sickly LO!

I think my method once he's 100% well and eating solids again will be similar to Tibsy's, I will offer cuddle first, then maybe try water in a bottle (he refuses a cup at night).

oh that you would miss the meet up meg.

i have to say with the night weaning, a few times if he really couldn't be settled, say an hour or so into it, i would give in and feed. that didn't seem to put us as far back as i would have expected...

ep i did much the same as amber and meg really, and yes, it dd hadnt settled in an hour or so, i'd resort to the boob. it did take a little crying at the start, just because she wondered what the heck was going on i guess she soon got the picture tho and most times is happy with a cuddle if she wakes.

amber -the ducks were grateful how long are you visiting for?

hi meggy

meg - at NCT lady putting dc in own room at 3 weeks, i thought the NCT lot were as bad as me and my hippy mums

house hunting going well. we're viewing on saturday and had valuations today and yesterday. Appt. with bank tomorrow! will definately have to find work, which isn't that easy as i'll need to work around my mums shifts for childcare and stuff hopefully something'll come up soon or we cant even get the mortgage

Skirmish, i really you, i wana be in labour, i loved it! mad i know but i really do enjoy being pregnant and giving birth....hope all is well. i hope you've taught DH how to get onto MN so he can post when you've had it!

On the ITNG front, Noah likes to stand up at the end and sway from side to side like the Haa Hoos! he loves them, i'm just waiting for them to bring out the inflatable toys, not sure if it'll happen, fingers crossed though!

i didn't take notes this time, sorry if i've missed anyone

meg - at NCT lady putting dc in own room at 3 weeks, i thought the NCT lot were as bad as me and my hippy mums

house hunting going well. we're viewing on saturday and had valuations today and yesterday. Appt. with bank tomorrow! will definately have to find work, which isn't that easy as i'll need to work around my mums shifts for childcare and stuff hopefully something'll come up soon or we cant even get the mortgage

Skirmish, i really you, i wana be in labour, i loved it! mad i know but i really do enjoy being pregnant and giving birth....hope all is well. i hope you've taught DH how to get onto MN so he can post when you've had it!

On the ITNG front, Noah likes to stand up at the end and sway from side to side like the Haa Hoos! he loves them, i'm just waiting for them to bring out the inflatable toys, not sure if it'll happen, fingers crossed though!

i didn't take notes this time, sorry if i've missed anyone

Hello Everyone!

Well, last night felt like a lot of work, DS was very unsettled, and I was feeding for a lot of it, plus DH had a bad night (we have this agreement that if this week goes well with co-sleeping then we won't resort to a cot--the thought of giving up co-sleeping makes me tearful because I love that time with DS, so I am trying REALLY hard to make it work so DH can sleep well, so it feels a bit like a setback). DS was up at 5:45 for the day, changed his nappy and got back into bed, DH took DS. DS back in at 7:10, I took a shower, DS fed down to sleep at 7:30 and I fell asleep too...woke up at 8:30 terrified, b/c CM was late so I was late and boss had come by my office so altogether not a great morning .

BUT, great to read your posts this morning. Tibs, I want to feed the ducks! Glad you had a good night, what a sweet little DD you have.

Tam, it's no one's business but yours about the co-sleeping, obviously I second everyone else's support, and it's going great for you so that's more than most can say regardless of where their kids sleep.

Meg, I hope the snotty phase passes quickly, I hate it when DS is stuffed up, it seems like the feeds take forever and the nights are all unsettled. Sending healthy vibes your way!

EP, about leaving in the morning, sure that my DS is getting close to the clingy phase and that is going to make me so sad! The yelling is a bit funny, though, like it's such a big boy emotion to be angry! DS gets angry when we take the remote/phone/blackberry out of his mouth and it makes me laugh because his face gets all red. I hope your cough gets better, and good luck with night weaning. DS is the same, feeds all night and hardly eats during the day, but I have to say part of my connection to him now that I am at work is night feeding, so I don't think I'll be weaning anytime soon (particularly since, aside from the teething, the nights are getting better).

Amber glad you had a good night, you've really got DS sorted (not to jinx you, I know how these things go in phases) I hope your trip won't mess up his sleeping too much...perhaps once he gets used to the time zones again he'll be fine? [sends that one up to the sleep gods].

Okay, that was a handful to type! Lots to do today, so must get back to work. Really missing you guys, tho...oh, I'd be really happy to meet up if we can manage to plan it!

xxx

x-post, Beal, good luck with the bank, and hooray at the progress! I hope you find something you'll enjoy and that allows you that flexibility you need. Fingers crossed!

xx

EP yes, I usually work on Fridays. I think that Friday I do acutally have off too but DH and I have planned a little day together. We're putting DD into nursery and spending some time together, might go to the cinema or something but generally just spending a day without child.

That sounds like a lovely idea Ginger. DH and I did that a few months back - went for lunch sans baby . I have a few odd days to take before the end of the year, so I'll hopefully have at least one day when DS is at the cm so we can do something similar.

I like the idea of pushing back the first feed - baby steps and all that. at feeding after an hour if settling not working - my patience runs out after about 5 mins! Especially in the middle of the night

Bring it on! (after these teeth are through)

Beal: good news re the house. You are so much more motivated that us: we've been thinking about moving for months! Will def get onto it in the new year.

Am revealing my lazy nature here, aren't I?

EP, my tip is to get some earplugs and get dh to try to settle him for an hourwhile you attempt to snooze. dh will be begging you to feed him to sleep after that.

EP, I have only once gone as long as an hour before feeding him -- I was feeling particularly stubborn that night. Mostly I will give it half an hour or so if it's at a time when I think he's unlikely to be hungry.

ear plugs
cattle prod to wake DH

EP i'm just very stubborn

ginger - that sounds a lovely idea. dp and i had a night out together the other night. it was great, we actually had a conversation that went beyond 'how was your day?' or 'how are the kids?' enjoy

i give it about 20mins before offering my boobs! it never takes that long though. think i've got him hooked on bonjela. as he has a summ, i can squirt b/j on it and then pop it in his mouth and it makes him keep it in....fantastic!

EP, that should have read 'i'm very stubborn, if theres no crying involved'

Good afternoon ladies.

Had a terrible night. DS2 woke about every 2 hours going down until it seemed like constant. . He might be teething who knows!

I've started a thread about his frequent feeding because I with the other 2 they had settled down with their feeding by now. It's becoming very draining for everyone. I have been reading you comments on night weaning with interest, but I'm not sure if I'm ready for that yet. I'm feeling quite low about it all as I feel like I'm doing something wrong, quite often when I let him feed it's only for a few minutes and he obviously wasn't hungry.

Sorry this was a selfish post. I was plaesed to hear all the good things happening in your lives, but need to go and get DS1 a drink now so can't write individual messages.

lol, on bealcain's ds' bonjela addiction!

tibsy and ginger [jealous] of your 'dates' with dp. i'm hoping to do that a bit in Australia and maybe arrange a way to do it when we are back again. I think we've only been out once for a coffee without ds in 10 months!

CM, poor you. 20 weeks is just a typically horrid time. doesn't make it any easier though i'm afraid. big hugs for you. and i think you would probably just be met with all night tears if you tried to night wean, it's why i waited 9-10 months to do it. i was never actually confident that he didn't need the milk before that. i know they say 6 months though, so might be possibleto try around then. get all the help you can though love during this trying time. xx

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CM, so sorry you're having a rough time. I hope you get some helpful advice from your post, and remember, NO POST is a selfish post on SIFTW.

Beal, that's great. DS hates Bonjela, or I might be tempted to try that.

EP, I think we're married to the same man...I also need to put cattle prod on my list.

Tam, looking at the article now!

I miss you guys. Screw work! (I am still working, BTW)