10 year-old bedtime

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My youngest is complaining that I make him go to bed too early!

Here is the routine...

8.40 - 9pm: PJ'S on, brush teeth etc. I then go up with him until 9pm and we read / chat together (he still loves this).

9pm - 9.30pm I ask that he stays in bed but he can read independently if he likes. He has newspaper subscriptions that he enjoys.

9.30pm I expect lights off and for him to settle.

Does this sound reasonable?

It’s sounds an hour too late. My almost ten year old is in bed by 8pm and asleep within 15/20 minutes.

At first glance it seems late to me. One of the key things is how early they wake. 8:15pm here for DS who wakes at 5:50am

He's up too late in my opinion.

Yeah you need to total the hours asleep and how many are before midnight really.

Does he get up early enough and easily? Is he tired and moody before bed?

I'd also worry about what he's reading just before bed if he's reading newspapers

I try earlier but the problem is it is far later at his dad's so he's used to later and struggles to settle much earlier if that makes sense? Dad also says it's a "baby's bedtime" which doesn't help.

He gets up around 7.45

So 10 hours sleep.

How often is he at Dads? Does he get to sleep in there of it's weekends if it's much later there?

Exactly 50/50 (week on/week off). Not my choice, court enforced since he was 3.

My DD age 10 goes to bed to read at 8.25pm, lights out at 9pm. She gets up at 7.30am so 10.5 hours sleep. I think 9pm is too late but I'm overruled by DH.