Remind me - when CCing a 13 month old how often many mins do you leave it btw checks?

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its a pretty urgent inquiry - please help?

Think you are meant to build up the gaps incrementally?

I.e, leave for 2, back for 1, leave for 4, back for 1 and so on.

Good luck. It's hard. (And controversial, esp on here ). But it saved my sanity.

I say between 2 and 5 mins depending on how YOU feel. It doesn't matter so long as it isn't ages and so long ss it isn't every 2 seconds.

I don't agree with the increasing time strategy personally.

Yes, I have to admit I never was able to go beyond a gap of 5 or 6 mins

btw notnowbernard, I wasn't disagreeing with you personally just the strategy - thought my post sounded a little pointed, I'm sorry

It wasn't taken that way

Thanks. I knows its controversial. I oppose in in principal, but in practise I feel it is this or a nervous breakdown.

Thankfully she is quite. Took 10 mins in total (and two checks). We will see how long the quietness lasts before I praise CC.

quiet not quite - sorry

Wow that is marvellous! Hope you have a good night right through til morning. I think CC is fine if you as a family are able to cope with it. No point doing it if it feels like torture but very effective if it works for oyu and you keep the gaps shortish.

Blimey that's quick! The 'official' line is that on day 1 you leave it 5 mins, then 10 mins, then 15 mins etc. On day 2 you start at 10 mins, then 15, then 20 etc. On day 3 you start at 15 mins, then 20 and so on.

I think most parents are opposed to CC in principle.

I did it with dd1 at 6m... she would just not go down at night (slept through ok). The longest she cried for was 45mins (from start to finish, whilst chexking). It took 6 nights of doing it.

DD2, on the other hand... will of iron

It was quick but then she is utterly knackered. Our real problem is getting her back down after night wakings. That will be the test tonight. Once she is rested a little I don't doubt her ability to put up a really good fight.

yes, that was dd2... out like a light at 7, screaming the (small flat) down at 12, 1, 2, 3 etc etc...

How did it go?