When cc doesnt work

[Sleeplessmamma]

Feel a bit at my wits ends. Baby has managed to learn to self settle (due to controlled crying) but still 2 weeks later we are crying at the start of naps and bedtime from 10-25 mins. Even though she is now sleeping through from 7pm till just before 7am, initially putting her down feels so stressful. She is nearly 10 months.

What other alternative do I have that isnt letting her cry but also not creating a new sleep association that we then end up back to square one (she used to be rocked to sleep).

Feeling very stressed and it's so upsetting to hear. Any advice or exoeriences would be greatly greatly appreciated right now.

Thanks in advance!

OP- sounds like you are doing everything you can. Like others have said don’t worry too much about perfect naps if she is sleeping well at night. It might take a little more time for her to be completely happy to go down. Please don’t let the negative comments get to you. Being a mother is tough and what feels right for one person- isn’t for another. But you don’t deserve some of the comments here. You are doing a good job.

PatricksRum Short term positive is a family that is less sleep deprived and better able to respond to its needs.
Long term it learns resilience and good sleep habits.

The comparison with other countries was because you suggested the rest of the world did it better and western women were cruel in some way.
Cruelty is leaving your child in sodden clothing without food or shaking it. It isn’t teaching it to sleep.

When they need sleep they will sleep. - @CherryPavlova

Not always. Don't fall into this trap, op.

I was literally thinking that earlier if she was my 2nd she would sleep anywhere - @Sleeplessmamma

Or this one! My first was a dream child - slept anywhere and everywhere! The second, because of her autism not so much. They are individuals, they don't follow a set pattern.

@PatricksRum I agree with not having to justify myself. But maybe your comments came across in a way that makes a person think they have too. I dont think my baby is scared (from what I've been reading they cant develop things like fear yet). Its the knowledge that I'm not there anymore. I think I've timed doing this at the time she learnt to crawl, teething and showing signs of the clingy phase at this age.