Lucy Wolfe's sleep solution

[kate288]

Hey! Just wondering if anyone is currently trying this or has used the book previously? I've always been a bit anti 'sleep training' as I know babies are meant to wake during the night as it is developmentally normal. However, I'll be going back to work soon and my 9 month olds sleep is still difficult (waking every 1.5-2 hours during the night) and will only feed back to sleep and I just don't feel I'll be able to function at work! Luckily her naps have really improved recently.

One night during night feeds I decided to buy the book on Amazon and it arrived today, but from giving it a quick skim through it looks quite intense! Just wondering if anyone has used it or if about to start maybe we could use this as a support thread haha.

I hate the idea of my DD being upset but I also need sleeeeeep!

@Laura1609 they definitely like to keep us on our toes! Id have thought when she turned 1 it would have got better but if anything it's gotten worse 😂 to be fair I really haven't followed the book properly and still feed back to sleep at night so it's probably my fault, I just don't have the heart to night wean yet as I know it'll be so horrible for her (and me!!) Hope you get a good night tonight!

I bought the book over Christmas and have been trying it since 1st Jan.
Frustrated tonight it's taken 1 1/2 hrs to get DS to sleep. Then had to go and get DD back to sleep too. Spent from 6-10 upstairs trying to get them both to sleep.
Has filled me with hope from everyone's replies though. Said to DH before bed, how long do we try this for & what do we do if it does not work.
I will try and hold out for 3 weeks at least based on people's comments.
Book does not help with trying to get 2 asleep of a night though- the routines seem to clash (2 year old and 6 month). Wanting to get DD (6 month old) into her own room in the next couple of weeks so will need some kind of routine to get them both asleep (or perhaps her first.... do I leave my DS in his room hoping he will amuse himself with books??!!) Any advice gratefully received!!

Well, not a good night. He woke up at midnight for a feed and went back down at 1am, woke up again at 3.30am and I’ve been in his room with him for an hour with him crying and crying. I’m loathe to feed again as I don’t think he needs it as he has only been feeding once for the last two weeks. I’m feeling as though we need to pay out for a sleep consultant.

Oh no, sorry it's been such a horrible night for you ☹️ I do remember quite a few long middle of the night wake ups around that age too and it's so tough. I've quite often felt the same about a sleep consultant but they are so expensive! Could it be teething waking your LO up upset? I know it's so hard when you've had such a sh*t night but I always try to remember that so many babies are the same and it's actually really normal (although really crap at the same time!) Hope you'll be able to grab a wee nap today when your LO does.

@lilachaze I can't imagine how hard it is with 2, especially still so little! Must be stressful trying not to wake up your 2 year old. I've thought about that quite a lot, what happens if we have a second when it's hard enough getting one to sleep! Sorry I've not got much advice! I think on Lucy's Instagram TV she gives advise about what happens with they share a room?!

Well, it took two hours of him screaming and crying. I gave him Calpol in case it was teeth and he settled afterwards and woke up at 7.20am. His bottom two teeth are already through and erupted about 3 weeks ago so it might be time for the next lot 😢

Poor little guy (and poor you!) My DD got her front 2 and a few weeks later got her top 2 so maybe they are coming. She's had 12 teeth since 11 months so hers keep.coming really quickly. Hoping for a better night for you tonight!

Hey @laura1609 just wondering how things are going now? X

Hiya @kate288, we’ve had to do the interval approach which is heartbreaking but after two nights we’re seeing some improvements. Last night I went in after 5 mins to settle (and he wasn’t screaming, just whinging) and then he was asleep 4 mins later so he slept from 7.10pm until 2am for a feed and then woke at 6.45am 🙌 Getting him down for a nap though has become harder now when that was really easy a couple of weeks ago 🙄 We’re having to do the interval approach just to achieve a nap which is frustrating when he’ll usually only nap for 45 mins.

That's great that he's not as upset now! I'm sure the naps will get back on track soon once he's used to the changes at bed time. Sounds like you are making good progress

Hello - I'm following this thread as I desperately need to do something with my six month old who wakes up EVERY HOUR.... I had hoped that a crying technique would work quicker than this. He still feeds a lot in the night (ebf).... gawd, I'm dreading the whole thing, but also have to look after a 3 year old so simply cannot operate on no sleep.

Hi @Hazelwood1 well if things get tough we were here on this thread if you need to vent! I've got to admit Lucy's book hasn't been the magic solution I'd hoped as my DD has recently been unsettled at bedtime again after a few months of no tears at bed time. She also still feeds 3 times a night. But overall things are still better than they were before!

My DS is almost 6 months and EBF. He used to feed 2/3 times a night but now wakes up 7/8 times and I know it’s just for comfort. He can go longer as on Saturday he only woke twice!

His first wake up he can be rocked back to sleep but after that he screams until he gets boob. Shh’ing and patting don’t work either.

I can’t face leaving him to cry but I’m at a loss as to what to do next 🙁

Well, an update. Here we are 5 weeks into controlled crying with no success, if anything my DS has gotten worse at bedtime. We’re at 45 mins of screaming so far tonight. Naps, no problem, goes down with no crying within a couple of minutes. I’m at an absolute loss of what to do, feel like the worst mum in the world for putting him through this. His nighttime sleep has also taken a massive turn for the worse too, going from waking once for a feed to being awake for hours on end inconsolably crying.

Sorry @laura1609 that sounds really tough. How old is your little one now? I remember a lot of disrupted sleep between 8 & 12 months. I wonder if it would be better to leave the controlled crying for now and come back to it in a few months when he might be more ready for it?
Also could he be teething if he's waking up inconsolable?