RANT Everyone keeps telling me my 4 mth old should be sleeping through by now !!

[puffylovett]

Am I a pants mum ? New to MN but like reading all the posts. Thought I'd beg some T and Sympathy. My DS is a good sleeper all round, only wakes for 15 mins at a time for a quick BF. Historically always fed at 11, 3.30 then 7am. This last month, he's been feeding at 11, sometimes 2, then 5, then up for the day at 5 6 or 7 and I don't mind telling you I'm sh**d !! and not in the real sense of the word !!! I've left him a couple of times through exhaustion and he's stopped waking at 5am, but still sometimes wakes at 2 for me to resettle him quicky on the breast, then for a feed at 4. All anybody keeps saying is, he shouldn't be doing that at this age, he should be sleeping through. which makes me feel cack. he sleeps anywhere from 2-5 hours during the day, doesn't have a dummy and is exclusively breastfed. He is apparently v v big and seems advanced (altho I have nothing to compare it to, just peoples comments). He's in his own cot and was settling himself during the day, altho 7pm is still a fight. I've never let him cry longer than 5 mins. I'm loathe to introduce solids so early as I have a history of bowel problems and food allergies and am doing everything i can to prevent the same for him. I'd love some advice if anyon e has any !! I can't help but think that if he's waking and feeding then he's hungry - but I'm getting close to the end of my tether now and I really don't want to give up bf him - in fact am about to start donating milk ! please help !!

Honestly, I get so fed up with people telling parents what their child "should" be doing at any given age. Says who? Is there a rule book? DS1 slept through at 12 weeks (not boasting) and DS2 at 2.5 years. I did the same things with both. All children are different and will reach whichever milestone when they are good and ready.

Hairy - Sex ? Whats that ? Is there such a thing after a babba ???????

only just sitting down to lunch, the tinker has now decided not to bother napping, despite being exhausted !!! Kids !!! mind you - being smug here - he rolled over on his own this morning ! Yippee !! at last, vindication, big milestone and a 'growth spurt' in itself I reckon, no wonder he's been a little guzzle guts

gutted, its pouring with rain so having scoured the house looking 4 chocholate now he's asleep, I can't even look forward 2 a little walk up the shops later for a snickers bar anybody else put a shedload of weight on since giving birth, despite bf ???

God yes. I lost my pregnancy weight plus a few pounds in the first two weeks (I think that was hospital food though) and then piled that and more back on!!!

oh goodie !!! well obviously not, u know wot i mean :0 so glad I'm not alone ! whats your favorite snack - i seem to have a thing for ice cold frosties at 4 in the afternoon ! how sad

puffy he is exactly th same as my 16 wk old
it's called a growth spurt at 16-18 wks
my ds sleeps well in the day too and always settles instantly in the night
Sleeping through pah

oh good god how many more growth spurts, he's a giant already !! ha ha lol ! think i may just permantnetly attach him to booby with a feeding tube, whats the betting he'll be a breast man when he grows up !

Puffy. 14 months on and I've finally got a grip and am back to pre-pregnancy weight. I didn't diet - it depresses me - but I don't snack at all during the day (or not very often ) and try and get out for a walk with the pushchair as often as possible.

What pratty people. Really unhelpful. my son slept through very early, but that was just pure luck and I didn't tell anyone other than my mum. And how is it helpful to make someone feel bad.
Some peoples children are just not good eaters or sleepers or whateve. And some people children are very good slepeers, and yet still don't sleep through.

As others have said, 4 months is the growth spurt. He just needs more milk. I don't think weaning is probably necessary just yet. Aren't they recommending 6 mths these days ?
Are you feeling better now ?

oh yes v much so, thanks !!!

Thank goodness some sense is being spoken !!!! I am in the same position my babe is 14 weeks and has had a really bad week not sleeping well during the day and at night waking for feeds between 2-4am when he was sleeping through till 6am.

I was starting to feel like I was doing something wrong as I keep hearing and reading babies should be starting to sleep through the night by now. I didn't realize there was a growth spurt around this age and it is a major one. I think we need to ride this one through.

Just when you thought you had it sorted it all changes

Hooray for this thread, having similar extra night wakings with 15 week old. I know I'm not doing anything wrong but do people not realise it's none of their business how your baby is sleeping?
Think I will take some of the advice on here and just lie- obviously everyone else does!