Baby sleeping in own room before 6 months

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So many parents put their little ones in their own rooms before they reach 6 months?

No

OP - are you asking a question?

Is this a question on if you should?

Should that be 'Do' instead of 'so?' No, mine were both around 8 months

DD was in our room until about 20 months.

I didn't but anecdotally both of my friends who did have babies that sleep thru, mine does not

Ahhh yes ‘do’ yes I did 4 and 3 months.

Yep

4 months

Perfect timing with monitors

Great little sleeper

DD went I to her room at about 8 weeks. She had horrific reflux, didn't sleep, spent hours puking or screaming, DH was back at work and no one was getting any sleep. For our own sanity she went into her own room so only one person needed to be up with her.

No
SIDS (cot death) risk is increased by moving them out before 6m so why would you.

My first didn't go into his own room until 11 months but that was because i had to put him into nursery full time from 6 months and I missed him terribly so loved him sleeping next to me in his cot.

DD went in to her own room around 5 months as she was such a light sleeper we just kept waking each other up!

Ds1 went in at 2 weeks. Hes here beside me alive and kicking 2 weeks short of his 10th birthday.

As soon as mine were too big for their moses basket they had to go in their own room. Our bedroom is not big enough for the cot, so there was no choice. Despite being in the room next door I still had the baby monitor next to me. The number of times they woke in the night they were rarely in their own cot for more than a couple of hours anyway 😴.

My dd only could sleep in her own room, did try with her in our room but she couldn't sleep where we were. By around 8 weeks she was in a cot in a different room

Yup from about day 2, into room across hallway with both our doors open. No issues. Maybe we got lucky but we couldn’t cope with his noises when directly next to us (just a snuffle woke me in a complete panic) and I didn’t know about the sids thing at the time. Incidentally he slept through from 3 months. DC2 I had in with me until 4-6 months, much worse sleeper now.... anecdotal of course but would chime with what PP says.

Meh. DD1 was in her own bedroom at 6 days old. She slept on her back, we are a non-smoking household, and she was EBF to 6 months, all of which are bigger factors in cot death. You never hear people saying 'why do people not BF, it reduces the risk of SIDS'. The risk of cot death was lower than my risk of going completely crazy because I woke at every deep breath she made and was shattered. She was less than a metre away in the next room and we all lived.

Interestingly each child was in our room for a bit longer which is ironic because sharing with an older sibling is as safe as sleeping with adults.

Dd was in own room from 4 month, would of been sooner but house we were in didn't have a suitable room for her. Ds In own room from around 4 weeks, such an independent child. Likes plenty of room to move around and was a really light sleeper, me rolling over would disturb him, Was the best for both of us. Had video monitors for both times, it's what worked for us.

Ds1 - moved to room at 5 months as he was such a terrible sleeper. Would wake every 45 mins all night and the sound of us even sniffing woke him. We couldn't take it and he did then start sleeping much longer stretches

Ds2 -currently 4 months old. Fantastic sleeper, goes 7-7 every night. No intention to move him out for the foreseeable, not even at 6 months :-)

You have to do what right for you and your baby however I do have to say I wouldn't have felt comfortable moving ds1 before 5 months. And i went and bought an angel care baby monitor with the heart rate sensor pad for extra reassurance too.

This reminds me of this interesting piece of research I read - they were comparing between white british and British Pakistani (who have a much lower SIDS rate) parents and their implementation of the safe sleeping guidelines:bmcpediatr.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/s12887-016-0560-7

What struck me is that basically no one was implementing them in their entirety - it's just that the Pakistani women had a culture that already fitted better with them. I also thought it was interesting that the researchers pointed out that because the guidelines are all 'don'ts' parents sometimes don't know what they should do - eg where to breastfeed at night? You're not supposed to cosleep but you also shouldn't risk falling asleep in a sofa or armchair, so sometimes it feels like there's no safe space. Also, absolutely nobody seems to follow the guidelines on all sleep being in same room as an adult - I asked my health visitor if that meant we can't put the baby to bed before we go to bed until he's six months and she laughed - and, again, there's no guidance on how to do this. Would they recommend babies nap in a sling? Or do they really think a parent should be glued to the room the baby is in for every nap? I do think if they tried to think more realistically about how to advise people to do these things within the boundaries of what people consider the culturally 'normal' ways of baby-raising then they'd have higher compliance levels. Also, by presenting all these things as equally important they risk people picking and choosing - 'they sleep in my room so it's ok that I smoke' or 'i don't smoke so it's ok that they have their own room' - but parents are making those decisions without knowing the relative weights of those risk factors.

where to breastfeed at night? You're not supposed to cosleep

Cosleeping is not a risk for sober non-smoking BFing Mums and it doesn't take long to find the evidence for that.

Yes, sorry, I wasn't clear - I know that cosleeping is safe under those circumstances, I was more talking about the guidance given - which is still not to do it (though I've found health care professionals are softening that message, presumably for exactly this reason) - and the confusion it causes. I suspect that a lot of people who fall asleep with a baby on a sofa do it because they think it's too dangerous to feed in bed. Explicit guidance that cosleeping is safer than risking falling asleep in a chair would be helpful, but it isn't the current safer sleep guidance.

I’m the opposite all of mine slept in my bed until they were well over a year old, then they all went into their own bedrooms fine.

I would have gotten a lot less sleep as I would have been up every 5 minutes checking to see if they were still breathing. Plus in far too lazy to get out of bed to breastfeed in the night.

14 weeks here. She was already sleeping through 8-8 and the transition was smooth and her sleep got better and betteŕ. We used a snuza go alarm for peace of mind. I found it a massive relief to get my bedroom back as 'my space '.

6 weeks for them both, but that was in the dark ages of the early 90s. No harm came to either of them. I slept better (what sleep I got) with them in another room. Then, they weren't disturbed by XH coming nosily drunkenly to bed.

4 months here too. He was sleeping through the night however was a noisy sleeper and it would keep me awake every little sound so I put him into his own room next door to mine and we both slept well!