Baby sleeping in own room before 6 months

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So many parents put their little ones in their own rooms before they reach 6 months?

When mine grew out of the Moses basket here. A cot didn't fit in my room in my old house.

I spoke to HV

Who said dd didn't really fit 'criteria' for SIDS

Her sex playing a big part? I was a bit shocked at time.

My first I moved into their own room at 8 weeks and my second at around 3 months.

Ds went in his own room about 3 months. Wouldn’t settle after that in Moses basket and his cotbed wouldn’t fit in our room.

Yes at 5 weeks. He hated the Moses basket and woke himself up every time he moved.

There are just so many risks to take into account having a baby. The safest way to raise a baby would probably be breastfeeding, same room sleeping until decent aged child, living in a woodland area with low pollution, but not somewhere with wolves or bears, but not leaving the house anyway in case of accidents, definitely never getting in a car... it goes on.

There's no need for mightier than thou 'my dd is too precious' implying we don't think that ours are precious enough.

Marthasginyard - that is a bit shocking; 60% of SIDS cases are male so although there is a sex difference it's far too small for anyone to tell mothers of girls that they don't need to worry about it.

I thought so too

Although she knew I was OCD with no blankets, sheets....

The fact I have a 3 year old to look after is the main reason I don't "sleep when the baby sleeps" nothing to do with the fact of wanting to browse the Web or watching TV. I need to be alert for her, hence needing at least some form of sleep during the night. My son slept better in his own room in his own bed, we did what worked for us. Unless you can make my 3 year old nap then sleep when the baby sleeps is a crock of shit.

I’m talking about when baby and any other children go to bed that’s when we need to look after oytselves and catch up on sleep. Not be worrying about keeping the house perfect or knitting our own yoghurt! As I said - it’s priorities. I stay up really late on a regular basis doing things for me (mumsnet / Internet) as well as house shit - because it’s the only uk e I get to myself. But 90% of it is a choice. I could sleep when they go to bed or choose to do other stuff. I wouldn’t put my baby in a room on their own so I can get more sleep because having a tiny baby means sleep disruption and if I’m knackered I would accept it and make my choices accordingly.
I’ve got a 3 year gap between my first 2 - I know it’s hard work.

martha mine weren't allowed toys or teddies in their cots until almost 1. No blankets or sheets either.

LisaSimpson wait what, I was under the impression that SIDS risk was double for boys? You sound like you've done a lot of research, can I ask where you're getting your info? I've been meaning to brush up on the data sources for our current guidelines-we made a few slightly higher risk decisions early on and then I 'dumped' all the info our of my mind once it became irrelevant....now trying to help out some friends and can't remember anything useful

We moved our pair out at 4 months because dd started singing at 4am. The advice wasn't as strict then. I needed all the sleep I could cling to for survival. Not to surf the net but to wash bottles, sort clothes, put away shopping and keep able to feed and care for my pair during the day and night.

Whalebird I've used this website a lot: www.isisonline.org.uk/hcp/research_evidence/. I've also read some of the original studies (like the one I mentioned upthread) because I can access them, as an academic (on research leave) and find them interesting BUT this isn't my field at all, so I'm not an expert or even qualified to interpret them! I got the 60% figure from here: www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2910535/ but when I googled it I did see other, bigger discrepancies sited. But I suppose if 60% are boys and 40% girls then boys have 1.5 times the risk, which sounds much more alarming (or reassuring, depending on which you have).

I hate these threads, all these people saying their babies were fine. What about the ones that weren't, do you think anyone is going to tell you about them?

I can't even write what I want because it is too upsetting. Yes everyone needs to weigh up the risks for themselves, but nobody is saying in honest, brutal terms what the risk actually is.

Mine went straight into their own rooms the day we got back from the hospital but I do understand that is not the done thing now.

Both were great sleepers.

Bamaluz please look up the incidence of SIDS.

Then look at the rate of car accidents.

Take baby in a car? Yes or no?

From the NHS:

In the UK, more than 200 babies die suddenly and unexpectedly every year. This statistic may sound alarming, but SIDS is rare and the risk of your baby dying from it is low.

I couldn’t find it but I suspect smoking, alcohol/drug use and unsafe bed sharing make up a large portion of this cohort.

I followed the current UK advice and baby was with us at all times when sleeping until 6 months.

Quite frankly I am stunned she has never had sleep issues because the difference in quality of sleep when she went into her own room was astonishing. Sleeping babies are so noisy (I do miss the snuffles and snorts now though). The child can sleep through anything unbothered!

Cosleeping is not a risk for sober non-smoking BFing Mums and it doesn't take long to find the evidence for that.

Actually, this statement is inaccurate.

Most modern SIDS recommendations (not to cosleep, not to leave the baby in its own room, etc) are based on the 2013 research published by Carpenter et al. It is the most comprehensive study available so far (1472 SIDS cases, and 4679 controls) and while it is not perfect, it is the best information we have available.

bmjopen.bmj.com/content/3/5/e002299

What Carpenter's research highlights, that both "safe co-sleeping" and putting the baby in its own room carries roughly the same level of risk (with safe cosleeping being slightly riskier).

I know some websites like isisonline tend to ignore Carpenter's research and prefer to focus on much smaller studies (e.g. Blair 2014) but those papers have even more limitations that Carpenter's analysis.

'Cosleeping is not a risk for sober non-smoking BFing Mums and it doesn't take long to find the evidence for that.'

Believe it if it makes you feel better

Sleeping with babies ALWAYS creates risk