Baby sleeping in own room before 6 months

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So many parents put their little ones in their own rooms before they reach 6 months?

My 15 month old slept in a next2mecrib with us til 6 months then moved into our bed! Still here now, just the way we all like it...

The day we came home from the hospital, but my oldest is now 18 so it was a while ago. Their snuffling woke me up instantly from the bedroom next door (with both doors open) I would have been a wreck with them in the room with me. I dont know what i would do with the current advice to have them in with you for 6 months.

Dd was with me till she was 1. I just wouldn’t risk anything SIDS related. You’ll always get the parents that say they put their kids in their own rooms for day one and they’re totally fine but dd is too precious to risk it.

DS was in with us till 6.5 months. We weren't happy to take the risk with SIDS of moving him any earlier. Personally I would have kept him in with us longer, but he outgrew his bedside crib and we didn't have room in our bedroom for a cot.

Yes, from birth. Had an Angelcare monitor and our paediatrician reassured us that everyone tends to sleep better when baby is in their own room (we're in Switzerland, where the monthly check-ups are with a paediatrician as standard).

Yep. 3 weeks old and we've had the most amazing routine and she sleeps like an old man, and always has. Currently sleeping until 9/10am after a 6pm bedtime and eats like a horse. Do whatever you want to do, you're the parent and you know best.

Guidance is to stay in the same room for 6 months so that's what we did. There's no way we would have moved them at a few weeks old

I just wouldn’t risk anything SIDS related. You’ll always get the parents that say they put their kids in their own rooms for day one and they’re totally fine but dd is too precious to risk it.

Out of interest did you keep her with you for all daytime and evening sleep too?

I've never understood how you are supposed to get into a bedtime routine when you have to keep the baby with you. Does that mean mum has to go to bed at 7 pm?

Irrelevant for me as DD is the least routined baby in the world!

That really confused me too, snuggy (my DS is six weeks, so still too young, but for the future). When I asked my health visitor if either I had to go to bed at 7 or he couldn't go to bed until 10 she laughed and said 'there's guidance and then there's life' and said that everyone put the baby up to bed with a monitor before six months 'though obviously I can't recommend that'. I then mentioned it at my new mums' group and everyone is ignoring it for daytime sleep. Which is why I wonder how helpful a recommendation people find so unworkable is.

I put mine in a separate room at three months because I wasn’t getting any sleep.

To provide some balance, I co-slept with both DC and DS2 is in my bed at 27 months. DS1 is only just sleeping through, he's 6 years old.

Some people do the cot/separate rooms thing and some have their babies in with them. Neither of mine would settle anywhere other than on me, so that's what I did.

DD was 4 months. Outgrew her crib and cot wouldn't fit in our room. Didn't want to cosleep as I move around too much in my sleep. She was sleeping through anyway so put her in the room next to us, both doors open and monitor on loudest setting.

It actually didn't occur to me that people would just have them in for overnight sleep and not bother during the day. My baby sleeps downstairs during the day, or I come up and have a nap in bed with him. Then we all go to bed together at about 9pm. It only works because he is our only child though, if we had other children to look after I'm sure we'd have to do it differently.

I hate the comments of "well we put them in their own room and they were fine".... Yes your one baby was fine. The point is that it is riskier and that I wouldn't be willing to risk being the one that it wasn't "fine" for.

I hate the comments of "well we put them in their own room and they were fine".... Yes your one baby was fine. The point is that it is riskier and that I wouldn't be willing to risk being the one that it wasn't "fine" for.

I've not yet ever left my baby alone to sleep - though I do find it hard to imagine getting to six months never doing it even in the day/evening - but don't we all do this with different risks all the time? DS has never been left alone to sleep but he has been in the car many times, even though the only truly necessary journey was bringing him home from the hospital. I follow the guidelines about how long he should be in a car seat but I'm still taking a risk that I don't need to with him (and with me, for that matter!). We all make choices every day and we're not always going to make the absolute gold standard safest one.

@lisasimponsbff I didn't mean I hated that people were taking the risk... I mean I hate that people think just because they did something with their baby and it was fine that therefore means it's not actually risky and it's not a problem. Of course we all have to make a judgement call about things every day, but I wouldn't try and suggest because my baby is fine with it so will everybody else's.

Both of mine outgrew their moses baskets at 4 months and the cot won't fit in our room so they had to go in their own. We considered it to be safer for them to sleep in a different room than to cosleep. Just our opinion though, I get that some people feel it is safe to cosleep but we were scared.

I hate the comments of "well we put them in their own room and they were fine".... Yes your one baby was fine. The point is that it is riskier and that I wouldn't be willing to risk being the one that it wasn't "fine" for.

No one can do every recommendation all of the time though. I made the decision to put my DS in a separate room when I nearly fell down the stairs holding him, as I was so sleep deprived. I thought that was a lot more dangerous.

Both of mine were in an adjacent room at probably two months old - a long time ago before these guidelines!

I found it very hard to sleep with the noises, snuffles etc they made, but never had a problem waking up to breast feed so it worked out best for us.

@Fieau

Yes, you're absolutely correct. My MIL was saying that when DH and BIL were children, nobody had car seats and they turned just out fine. I said yeah, but what about the ones that didn't?

Just because you weren't personally adversely affected, doesn't therefore mean there are no risks or, (as is usually implied by such types of comment), that the risks are exaggerated.

For us, we were happy with the paediatrician's advice and the babies having a breathing monitor and being in the next room with doors open.

Make your choice based on the evidence. For example breastfeeding reduces SIDS risk yet I don’t see anyone telling formula feeding parents off because of SIDS.

Both of mine went to their own rooms 4-5 months old after sleeping in bedside cots which they outgrew. DH is a heavy sleeper and occasionally smokes, I felt they were safer in their own rooms than staying with us any longer.

No one can know what will happen with baby’s safety but the facts are that SIDS is quite rare and the biggest factor in reducing it in recent decades is putting baby on its back on a firm surface free of loose bedding.

I think people have strange priorities now days. Babies are supposed to disturb you with their snuffles and splutters - so you attend to them if needed. You are supposed to disturb them with the sound of your breathing so they don’t fall so deeply asleep that they forget to breathe - those are the reasons that sids is reduced by sleeping in the same room.

It’s only 6 months, which the majority of people can take off work as maternity leave. If you accept that you will be knackered from stirring / feeding baby through the night and adjust accordingly it wouldn’t be so difficult. But the truth is we tend to still want to keep on top of the housework, shopping, meeting friends, surfing the Internet, watching tv etc etc. Obviously we all need things like this for sanity - but it is usually a choice to do these things rather than napping when the baby naps or saying fuck the housework and bumming around in pjs if you’ve had a bad night.

I guess what I believe is that we tend to have unreasonable expectations of being able to ‘do it all’ when the baby is little, and therefore make choices like putting them in their own room (despite this being worse for the baby) so we will get more sleep and be able to live life like we don’t have a newborn wearing us out!

@deltag are you secretly also married to my husband? Because I swear we have the same in-laws

Mine's French and also loved to tell me that she drank half a glass of red wine every day throughout her pregnancy and also ate unpasteurised soft cheeses....

Maternity leave here is 3 months. My babies slept 10/12 hours from 8 weeks fortunately, but many don't. Most people aren't 'surfing the internet', they need to sleep to be able to work.

Our paediatrician said that in 35 years of practice neither him nor any of his colleagues had seen a case of SIDS. It is very rare.