We thought we would try and teach our 10.5 month old how to self settle at bed time. We didn't want to do controlled crying though so went for the "pick up put down" technique.
Before we started this he was sleeping through majority of nights but to get him to sleep beforehand I would have to rock him whilst stroking his hair and could only put him down if he was really deeply asleep. We thought we would try and teach him to self soothe because it be easier for us (selfishly) if he could self soothe by time I get pregnant with DC #2.
First 3 nights seemed to go pretty well. Only 15 minutes before he drifted off and he continued to sleep through. But next 3 nights were DP's turn to give it a try and although he did drift off to sleep within half hour all 3 times he no longer slept through. He would wake crying and not for milk but for cuddles.
Yesterday he would scream at the cot when I took him in there to change his nappy or put him down for day time naps. Last night took over an hour to settle him and he was waking constantly through the night. He would only calm down if I took him out of the room.
Have we accidently installed a fear into him about his cot? Trying to put him down again now and he just screams as soon as we go near his room now.
Not sure what to do! Feel like an idiot scaring him when he slept through so well before. I was just being selfish 