Pick up put down method

[Viper84]

Hi,
We have recently started to try the pu/pd method with our 6month old daughter. First night it took us 1hr 20mins to get our daughter to sleep, but she stayed in her cot for 7hrs and self settled during the night. 2nd night it took us 45mins and she slept for 5 hours. This is huge for us as she has been co sleeping for weeks so we could get sleep.

I just wanted to get some advice as she gets very upset when we do this and I just feel so so guilty. The picking up and putting down and patting her tummy seem to wind her up, she just fights and I can't help but think that she falls asleep through exhaustion. I attempted this for her after noon nap and it took 1hr 20mins before she went to sleep and only had a 20min nap.

I guess I just feel cruel :-(

The angst isn't worth it imo. She's six months old, she'll get there in time. It doesn't sound like it's worth it either if you got a 20 minute nap.

Personally I'd say feed almost to sleep then rouse her slightly before putting her into a warm bed/pjs etc. So she see where she is before she enters deep sleep.

Or just co sleep?

Agree with PP, I don’t think it’s worth it personally as she’s still tiny and doesn’t understand.

Ps. That’s not to make you feel guilty! it’s so hard but I believe babies are meant to get there on their own, cosleeping or putting down asleep is the best most natural and kind option I think x

What was your reason for sleep training with PU/PD? How bad was sleep before starting it? It all depends on what the problems were and what you want to achieve.

Personally, if I were in a situation where baby and I were getting enough sleep (whether by co-sleeping/feeding to sleep/putting in cot when already sleep), I wouldn't bother with it. However, if you have a major sleep problem and baby or you are really struggling, then it may be worthwhile.

Whatever you do, please try be consistent - don't do it for a couple of nights, then decide it's too cruel and stop, then start again. That is the cruellest thing for baby as they can't work out what you want from them and gets them really confused.