Still awake with newborn

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Part 2 ... everyone welcome

How long do you need to wait when breastfeeding to introduce a dummy? DS2 is 2 weeks and 2 days.

It’s his due date today bless him!

I'd like to know the answer to that too about the dummy, I assumed early but should we wait? Never did a dummy with DD but DS is very sucky and I think it might help his sleep at night?

General advice is 1 month while breastfeeding is established to avoid nipple confusion (is that a real thing?). I think it’s so you don’t miss feeding cues in the early days too. My baby didn’t take to a dummy (though I didn’t try until 11-12 weeks), so others may have better ideas.

When DD was in SCBU (at 3 days old) and I was exclusively breastfeeding the nurses and doctors there were very pro dummy and in their experience ‘nipple confusion’ isn’t a real thing... didn’t affect my BF to use a dummy and certainly helped settle DD

“D”S has just fallen asleep for the first time since 6am after pram walk, feeding multiple times, rocking and sling. He’s 11 weeks and feel like I have broken him. Never has been a sleeper from birth however I could manage to get him to nap in the day time not too badly up until past 3 days still not slept in his cot ever or on his back either ! Help me !

We waited until 4 weeks and haven’t had any trouble with nipple confusion.

I’d have lost what little sanity I have left long ago if it wasn’t for dummies.

@WhoAteAllthePercyPigs - living your description of dc being ‘very sucky’ 😂

And shame on you for not sharing 😏

Loving*

Not sure what to suggest @Lovingtyrells.
All I would say is sometimes is just as well to go about your day and have them fit in around you. I found the more I was distracted the better, as I wasn’t trying to get dd to sleep, I was just busy and forgot! It wasn’t until the end of the day that I realised she had slept! (This was 5 years ago now, though)
Try not to get anxious about it though. ‘They’ say that children feed off your own anxieties. I’ve never been sure whether or not to believe that. I do believe that some children and just more chilled than others. My ds (10 weeks) is way more chilled that my dd when she was the same age. I think it’s to do with the personality of the child rather than anything you are or are not doing.
I appreciate that provides little comfort, but just keep swimming. This stage will pass but not as quickly as you’d like.

So it’s that time of night again. Dh is putting dd to bed. I’m downstairs giving ds his last feed before I go to bed. I’ll no doubt be back here around midnight for the first feed from me. Night!

@Lovingtyrells That's really tough, but do bear in mind everything is just a phase, especially in thr 1st year of a child's life.
You've nearly hit the 3 month mark and that's where they start to really fight sleep.
You're doing an amazing job, you're there for LO and if he doesn't sleep...you've done your best and there is no one better for him!
He will get there!
As will my DD. I reckon they are secretly amazing sleepers; just waiting for the right moment to come through

Here we go again!

DH out for evening so here I am with a very fussy baby and a packet of jaffa cakes

DS still wants to feed pretty much constantly every evening so we don't really have a last feed. It's just a case of keep feeding until he finally goes to sleep 🙈

Thank you! Everyone around me has a baby who just slept in the cot since day one, yes they woke up but they did go down each time in it :( I have let go of any expectation and it does help but as I’m coming up to three months I am worried that this is it now.

Anyone else get a growing sense of dread as night approaches thinking of the sleeplessness and battles to get baby in cot...

Lovingtyrells if that's any consolation, my DD is pretty unputdownable, too.
And when you think about it, it's natural to want to be near your mum when so tiny, isn't it? Some lo's just need it more than others.
My mum co-slept with me and carried me as much as she could. I'd say I am now quite a secure person and never really stuggled with sleep as a child, BUT I would not sleep in the cot as a baby. Sometimes I did, but not very often.
I think there is a lot of pressure on mothers to have the perfect babies and motherhood is more often than not portrayed as fluffy and perfect in the media, but babies aren't robots and I have found that a lot of women pretend they are finding it easy. Recently, a friend of my husband's said she had PND with her first (3 years ago), but you would never have guessed it at the time.
And 3 months might be the moment your LO chages completely. Apparently, some LO's do.

@mummarosie1 I’m completely with you I’m this one. Always just about manage to get through the day then think about the despair of the night that is to come and want to give in.

We are back to cluster feeding again. Just as I put my head down to sleep - DH takes the late feed so I usually get a few hours shut eye before the witching hour feed. Now that is out of the window and I really need it as only had one short nap today and already zombie like

Evening all. I’m saving reading back through all the posts that I’ve missed for when I’m next awake feeding. DP is currently rocking dexter to sleep after ive cluster fed him for the past hour.
Last night we managed the magic 4 hours of sleep and my god it was amazing. Although currently we seem to run on a ‘good night’ ‘bad night’ pattern with last night being a good night sooo we’ll see for later.
Solidarity to all us sleepless sisters ✊🏻

DD managed nearly 2hrs in the cot. At least I got stretch my back. Might even try to put her back down after a feed.

Bah, I spoke too soon. Dexter started rooting for (another) feed and when I picked him up he vomited all over us both

Does anyone else’s baby seem to do these huge vomits? It seems like really old, curdled milk and smells quite acidic and loads comes up. He’s been doing One a day for the past week or so. He never seems bothered by it and usually wants to feed shortly afterwards but it doesn’t seem normal really. Especially since I’m so careful post feed to hold it upright etc.

Gimble My DD has reflux and brings up cottage cheese-like vomit, but it's painful for her, so she's on meds.

DD won't settle...think she needs a poo...

Feed #1
Back to normal routine by the looks of it.

@Lovingtyrells it seems that everyone else’s child is always down the things that you want your child to do. Try and ignore it. It won’t help! As for thinking this is it forever, it isn’t. You won’t have a 10 year old that you have to cuddle to sleep every night! (You boo, haha!). But seriously, sleep and routines are something to tackle after 6 months if you want to. Until then, enjoy the cuddles and try and try not to worry about it.

@mummarosie1 yes sometimes. But I try and embrace it and look forward to it. I find if I dread it I am more anxious and annoyed when I get woken up for a feed. Rather if I try and enjoy it, the cuddles and the internet browsing and shopping (😊) then I get less anxious about the wake ups!

Fingers crossed for you @GimbleInTheWabe

DH just bought little one up and he woke early so giving him a 20 minute feed in the hope this will settle him for a while.

Wondering if I should express now I am awake as no idea how long until he wakes again.