Breaking point with sleep

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Posted a few weeks ago about DD now 12 months early wakings. Suggestions to cut her naps worked and she started waking at a more reasonable hour. However now its worse than ever.

Her routine is currently-
7pm - bottle in cot, fall asleep when finished drinking with me beside her cot pattingng her
11pm - wakes screaming. Try to console then give bottle in cot, when finished she will fall asleep with me patting her. Sometimes wakes when I leave the room or within 30 minutes. Try to console and eventually bring into my bed but takes 20 minutes to settle.
4/4.30 - wake up and refuse to go back to sleep.
6am - eventually bring downstairs

Tried shifting her bedtime to 8 and she still woke at 11 then 5am instead of 4am.

Naps - either in car or in cot with bottle then patting. Either one 40-60 minute nap in morning then 60 minute nap in afternoon or 1.5 hour nap around 11am.

Please help.

Can you side car the cot to your bed? X

Ah your situation sounds very much like mine...I have a 15 month old and have reached the end of my tether with the broken sleep. Watching to see what suggestions you get.

I remember the waking/screaming very well. It was awful but, I do think it's just a phase. When it happened to us, he was waking a few times each night and it went on for (I think) a few months.

It had pretty much stopped by 18 months and he's now 2.5.

Not much practical help there, but it's just a case of getting through it, which is easier said than done

As with PP it does pass and the best advice I ever received was 'the first 2 (or 3!) years are just about survival so do what it takes to get through' - whether that is going to bed early yourself or temporarily taking baby in with you x

Can you work on slowly reducing the patting to teach her to go to sleep without you? The best turning point I had with my DD was when she learnt how to get herself back to sleep without us. She cries briefly (I think more a pissed off why am I awake cry, not a very upset cry) and goes back to sleep so we don't have to get up until she wakes for the morning at 5/6ish.

What is her day time sleep schedule? I wonder if she is (the often quoted!) over tired?
It doesn't sound like enough sleep for a child her age obviously.

This morning she woke at 5am. At 9:10am she fell asleep for a nap and I usually let her nap for 1 hour in the morning then 1 hour in the afternoon but its now 10:30am so shes been napping 1 hour 20 mins and when I try to gently wake her shes too exhausted so ill let her nap a bit longer but I think getting 1.5-2 hours nap at 9am may just be encouraging the 4-4.30am wake ups?

Ok i actually think she needs more naps for a few days until she's no longer wrecked. Then try a short morning nap of about 45 mins with a longer afternoon nap of around 1.5-2 hours if possible? She's still very, very young.

Oh my daughter is 13 months and still on a roughly 2/3/4 schedule but always has her afternoon nap at 1pm (as that's when her older bro naps)

If she wakes st eleven no matter what you do is there something happening in the house/outside at that time that's waking her.
Alternatively have you tried the 'wake to sleep' trick? Wake her up gently at ten and let her fall back to sleep. It can help to break the habit.