STILL not sleeping through.

[dabbitydibbity]

Give me strength! Five full months of no sleep. Not one night of full sleep whatsoever and it's slowly but surely driving me loopy! DS1 slept consistently from 7-7 at around 4 months so this makes it even harder to digest! Generally DS2 has one feed in the night anytime from 1-5am and goes back down relatively easily, but the past three nights he has taken to pooping in the middle of the night too so that's another wake up. He also stirs and gets upset once or twice and I solve this by giving him a dummy. He goes down at 7pm and doesn't get out of bed again until 7am which is the only positive. All in all I'm shattered and becoming like a nocturnal animal! My DS1 has just turned 2 so I'm run off my feet all day and don't get a chance to nap.
Please tell me the end is in sight?!! When did your little ones sleep 7-7? A few people have said it was 12 months or beyond for their babies so I'm praying this isn't the case for me. I'm back at work full time in three months!

10 months here and still waiting. Actually he was sleeping through until 4 months. Still waiting for more than 2 hrs at a time

DD1... 3.5 (years). DD2 was an absolute dream in comparison and started sleeping through at 15 months!

DS is 11 months and wakes anything from once to ten times a night. He likes to wake up for 2 hour stretches in the early hours now, too. Thats a new thing. He's not upset, he's happy, he isn't wet or dirty or hungry or anything... just awake. And giddy.

I haven't had more than three hours unbroken sleep in almost a year. It's funny though, you do get "past" a point of exhaustion.

Am back at work soon too. Looking forward to the break, as DS an absolute whirlwind morning til night.

And only a 19 month gap between them so I had a period of 15 months where they were both up 3-4 times a night 😬

DD is 3 and sleeps through about 1 night in 14.

DS is 8 and still wakes at least once (at 3 he was waking 2 hourly).

So it does get better but slowly!!

DS is 2. He has slept through for one night so far.

Really? None of mine have been good sleepers. My third and last is currently 6 months and is a real bugger from 02.00 onwards.

I am jealous of anyone with any sleep, sorry!

It took me about 10 years to get a full nights sleep ...

Stress of school , friendships , exams ... all unfortunately leads to poor sleep !

Bless you dabbitydibbity. For the sake of your sanity, could you look at progress made?

Is DS2's sleep better now than it was 1 month ago? 2 months ago? Do you have good habits in place?

These small things are important. It shows you are progressing in the right direction. Which is what good sleepers do.

DS1 didn't sleep through til 18 months and that was fairly rare there was usually one wake up. It varied from 1-2 hourly and sometimes 3-4 hourly those first 18 months. He's 2 now but doesn't do 7-7 he does more like 8.30-6.
DS2 is 8 weeks and wakes up two or three times between 9 and 6.
I remember the exhaustion with DS1, current situation feels great in comparison.

I do think stressing about it makes you feel worse. Accepting that you'll wake up sounds like rubbish bit definitely helped. I also coslept in the end as I couldn't bear to be up and down. At least with cosleeping I didn't have to fully wake.

I remember being back at work and saying how I hadn't slept more than 3 hours for over a year. I thought I was making a joke but suspect I sounded hysterical

After DS I considered DD a good sleeper as things started getting easier with her at 18 months. DS was getting on for 3 years of age before he improved. I counted my sleep not in hour blocks with DS, rather it was minute blocks. It was horrendous.

The good news is that now however at 6 and 4 they are great sleepers; go to bed fantastically well around 7-7.30pm and very seldom wake up. What's even better for me is that DH now sorts them out if they do wake in the night as I've done more than my fair share of it!

I know it's tough but just remind yourself it will get better. Looking back I think I made DS worse as I'd pounce on him as soon as he made a sound, stick him on the boob and feed him back to sleep. I think I should have left him for 5 mins to see if he would settle himself. Do you give DS2 a chance to settle himself? Was he premature? There is a 4 month sleep regression as well which might not be helping things.

Good luck. It will get better!

My 3 year old has never slept to 7am (usual is 6am) so you're extremely fortunate to have a child that slept 7 to 7 from such a young age and perhaps asking for a lot for another to do the same.
My 6 month old is still not sleeping through but in my experience that's pretty normal. Yes I'm knackered but I've been tired for the last 3 years...😳

Oh OP, I know exactly what you are going through. DS slept 12 hours from 9 weeks and is still a brilliant sleeper at almost 4 years.

DD has just started at 8 months but she isn't consistent yet. We still have the odd bad night (teeth).
Solids have definitely helped loads. I was on my knees around the 5/6 month mark but having to go in once or twice a night now is a dream in comparison.

It will get better, promise.

Ps can dad help at all?? My weekends 'off duty' saved my sanity.

My DS is finally sleeping through almost every night, at almost 3yo. But I now have a 13w old so still no sleep . Totally normal to wake at night, I just got used to it i think. Caffeine helps

I'm sorry to say my DC2 didn't sleep through until a reward chart was successful at age 4.5! She was always a bad sleeper unless she was in bed with me. I fell into the trap of letting her come in with me every night when she woke, but it did mean I only had to get up once.

DD is 16 months and yet to sleep through, such is life I guess. I'm praying my next one does 7-7 from 4 months!

Stock up on the coffee and get your OH to help wherever possible?

Dc1 was about 14 months when she first slept through, and was sleeping through most nights by 18 months.

Dc2 first slept through at 18 months and now he is 21 months sleeps through about half of the time.

We survived by co sleeping, Dc2 has just moved into his own bed. It's really not so bad when all you have to do is roll over and stick a boob in their mouth .

It's reassuring to see so many mummies are in the same boat! Felt like I was doing something wrong!
Since my OH is working and I'm on maternity leave I feel it's unfair for him to take some nights. If it's still as bad when I'm back at work it will definitely be a shared duty!!
Is it true babies don't need a night feed nutritionally from 6 months? Just wondering if I should wean him off feeds at that point so I don't create a bad habit? Just not sure how to play it.

DS1 is nearly 5 YEARS and doesn't sleep through (jumps into bed with me at some point). DS2 is 15 months and wakes up in the night for milk. I'm pretty sure night waking is normal and nothing to worry about, especially when they're tiny and going through lots of changes.

Co-sleeping really has saved my sanity in this situation.

I weaned off night feeds at 7 months when DC was already eating quite a lot of solid food. I cut feeds down by a minute a night, then when I was down to just a minute I picked the earliest waking and just cuddled instead. Managed to break the feeding cycle quickly, although not the waking!

10 months in and still on 3 hourly feeds. What used to be a quick feed and straight back down at 8 months turned into a quick feed followed by an hours refusal to go back to bed!

3.5 all of them! They sleep through (8-6:30) when they are ready.
Good luck

DS is 6 next week and still wakes up every night and comes through to us.