HV advised me to let my 10 month old cry but don't leave the room, keep lying him back down when he stands up. To start with naps because it's easier during the day. But it's not easier during the day because I'm having to leave my 3 yo watching TV while I try and get the baby to sleep. He is up once or twice a night and will basically only settle with me feeding him (bf). Dh has some success rocking him but it does his back in and then he usually wakes up after an hour anyway.
I'm really at the end of my tether. I need a full night's sleep and I need nap times to not be awful and take so long. I feel so bad for my dd who is on her own downstairs while I sort the baby out. And I feel so bad for the baby who has been crying for 25 minutes and won't stop whether I pick him up or rub his back or whatever I do.
Feeling totally useless tbh. And confused as to how on earth people do this!