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Toddler getting out of bed and peeing on the floor

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glasgowdan · 14/04/2017 19:38

Every night for the past 6-8 weeks our 3 year old has decided he wants to get out of bed after bedtime and do a little pee on the floor somewhere. He also opens the curtains/pulls them down. When we go in to check on him he is happy to show us the pee. It's driving us mad!

We put him on the potty 2-3x during the bedtime routine. I have taken to removing all of his bedding and toys when he does this as a sort of punishment, but it's absolutely not sinking in and he keeps doing it. I've no idea what to do! We don't spank the kids, though I can see a life where that would be an efficient way of getting a little bit of obedience, but it's just not us.

Has anyone had this or have any ideas we could try to stop it? His room stinks like a public bog and the curtain rails have been broken and bodged back into place a couple of times.

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MovingtoParadise · 14/04/2017 19:41

Is it after he's been asleep?

If so then the poor kid is half asleep and even though he's showing it to you he's not really awake when he's doing it

Put him in pull ups?

JiltedJohnsJulie · 14/04/2017 19:51

Is there a potty in there for him to pee in? How's his understanding?Could you explain to explain to him that if he does it again he'll have to have a night nappy? If you do go back to night nappies, I'd highly recommend using cloth as he probably won't like the cold wet feeling and will be more willing to stay dry.

P1nkP0ppy · 14/04/2017 19:59

...removing his bedding and toys as a punishment... ?
Poor little lad, he's hardly doing it on purpose for goodness sake. Is there a light on so he can find the loo or potty? I suspect he's pulled the curtains thinking he'd be able to see where he's going.
...we don't spank the kids....an efficient way of getting a bit of obedience.... I'm horrified that you'd even consider this an option ffs.

Put him back in pull-ups or whatever, he's only a wee one and stop bloody punishing him.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 14/04/2017 20:00

Does he have a potty near his bed at night?

BrutusMcDogface · 14/04/2017 20:08

Put the potty in his room or put pull ups on him. He might be doing it to get your attention, but just make it more difficult for him?! Hopefully he'd get into the routine of weeing in his potty instead of the floor!

thebakerwithboobs · 14/04/2017 20:27

You punish a three year old by removing all his bedding?? I think I would piss on the floor if you treated me that way. He's THREE!

Starlight2345 · 14/04/2017 20:31

You have removed the bedding why? He isn't weeing in the bed.. You can't remove bedding as a punishment.

Put a potty next to his bed and a night light if he doesn't have one.. IS he pulling curtains down for some light?

TittyGolightly · 14/04/2017 20:34

Has anyone had this or have any ideas we could try to stop it?

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BreatheDeep · 14/04/2017 20:38

Wow. Just put him in pull ups at night as it sounds like he's not ready to be dry at night. Poor boy, shivering in his bedding-less bed.

kingscrossnoodle · 14/04/2017 20:44

Omg ffs just put him in a pull up.

What an awful way to treat a child.

CollieCaptain · 14/04/2017 20:50

You remove his bedding? That poor boy! He's 3. Use pull ups if he's not ready to stay dry at night. You absolute dick of a parent

Parisinthespring · 14/04/2017 20:52

You remove his bedding as a punishment?

ScarletForYa · 14/04/2017 21:04

He's not ready to be dry at night. He's probably afraid to go to the toilet.
Put him in pull ups at night.

3 is early for a boy to be dry at night.

honkersbonkers · 14/04/2017 21:10

Put a potty in his room and put pull ups on him. You can't punish a 3 year old for going for a wee for goodness sake, he's still learning. How would you like someone to take your bedding away??

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glasgowdan · 14/04/2017 21:37

Some hilarious replies, not very much useful stuff sorry.

He's in pullups. I remove his duvet and pillow for ten minutes. What do you do when you've pulled out all of your hairs and don't know what else to try? He doesn't fuss about the bedding thing anyway...just cracks on with roaming around the room!

He is in pullups at night. And he IS doing it on purpose as he's been to pee. He is jumping out of bed literally 2 minutes after lights out and peeing, on cue, every night. The potty is in his room, but that's irrelevant as he's not genuinely needing to pee.

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LovingLola · 14/04/2017 21:39

It would be useful if you put all that relevant information in your first post.

shirleycartersaidso · 14/04/2017 21:40

Put him back in a nappy.

Mummysh0rtlegs · 14/04/2017 21:41

Wait outside the door and as soon as you hear him out of bed run in and grab him. Second option is just to totally ignore it, the night he doesn't do it heap on the praise. I'd sit outside his room and every time I heard him get up, go in, place back in bed "night time, time to go to sleep", no emotion, little eye contact, repeat until asleep. You just have to break the habit and make it a boring process.

Batghee · 14/04/2017 21:43

dont remove his bedding. Punishment tends to cause more issues than it prevents at that age especially round toilet training!

I think its probably best to try and react as little as possible.
Perhaps put towels over newspaper on the floor of his room each night and change them every morning.
When he tells you what hes done try and keep as emotionless about it as possible and say 'oh right well you should have used the potty shouldnt you' and then dont discuss it or bring it up again.

It really sounds like a phase that he is getting something out of due to your reaction. I think the way forward is probably to stop reacting until he gets bored of it.

Pollydonia · 14/04/2017 21:44

Stop taking his bedding and start to give a consistent message.
He is doing it for attention which you are supplying.

Batghee · 14/04/2017 21:45

as PP said little eye contact and no emotion, reapeat the same statement, make it boring

CassandraAusten · 14/04/2017 21:45

Have you tried a reward chart? So he gets a sticker on the nights he wees in the potty, and a small reward after three stickers in a row.

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glasgowdan · 14/04/2017 22:02

The frustration is that we've tried all of this... reward chart ongoing, the emotionless quietly putting back into bed every time he gets up, the wee imp just carries on! I know it'll pass eventually, I just don't want him breathing in that smell all night long as it can't be healthy.

We've not spent a lot of nights waiting for the first sign of him moving and preparing to spread his scent, so I think we'll try and focus on that for a while. I can see it becoming a game for him though, he's the cheekiest thing you'll ever meet!

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kingscrossnoodle · 14/04/2017 22:04

PUT A PULL UP ON HIM

HTH.

Mummysh0rtlegs · 14/04/2017 22:04

Reward charts don't tend to work with kids like this, no instant gratification like the wee on the floor reaction. I think you need to keep going with putting him back as soon as he gets up that first time until he doesn't try any more. Could take some time, but you will win if you keep going.

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