What time does your 10 year old go to bed

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As mentioned in another thread I am embarking on the task of improving 4yo dds sleep (going to bed at night on her own, not getting up in the night etc). As my 10yo ds can take hours to go to sleep (presumably he plays up because he knows his sister is faffing around) I thought I'd start fresh and apply exactly the same rules to both of them. So my question is, what is a fair bedtime for a 10yo? I don't want to put him to bed too early, but at the same time he's aaaaaalways tired! Thanks in advance!

My 10yo goes to bed at 7.30. I know this is quite early compared to a lot of ten year olds but if she goes any later she is too overtired and grumpy the next day.

My 9.5 yo goes up to bed at about 7.30 (same time as younger siblings) but reads in bed/plays quietly in room until about 9.30. If he starts having trouble getting up in the morning, I enforce lights out a bit earlier. Sometimes he stays awake till 10-ish. He's never needed as much sleep as others his age, sadly.

9pm for ds (10) and 9.30pm for Dd (13). They are a bit later at weekends

Forgot to say, they get to read for 30mins too

"Usual" bedtime for DS (9.5) is between 7.30 and 8pm, however in practice this can get pushed back to 8.30-9pm a few nights a week due to swimming lessons etc. He does need a couple of early nights (7.30pm) to catch up from these though, especially as he rarely sleeps in after 7.30 am, even on a weekend when he needs it.

He goes upstairs at about 8 and reads for half an hour or so before sleeping.

8pm lights out

9pm. I like to make sure he's in bed around 8.30pm, so he can read but that doesn't always happen.

I have caught him reading under the covers with a nightlight at 10.30pm, though!

8.30 lights out in theory. In oectice sometimes closer to 9pm.
Up at 7am, if your D's needs to get up earlier/later I'd say that's relevant too

9pm lights out. Up at 7.

My 11 yo, in theory, got an extra 15 minutes in Sept (going into Y5 equiv, aged 10.75) to bedtime at 8.15pm. That's leaving downstairs at that time - which she almost never is ready to do even if I start getting that organized at 8pm (drink of hot milk, filling HWB, last chat etc). Wees and teeth, PJs, get out clothes for morning, snuggle into bed, turn on audio book, all take at least another 15 minutes, so it's 8.30 at the earliest before she settles down. She is allowed to read in bed, and has problems settling to sleep, but the general rule is that she should stay in bed after that except for toilet or urgent needs (banged head on wall, finished water in her drinking bottle, "I can't sleep" after 90 minutes+ are all reasonably common as well as actual toilet trips).

She generally is up around 6am though, and we get up at 7, waking her at 7.30 if we think she's quite tired and still asleep (but that is very rare).

Thanks for the replies, all very useful!

Ds1 is 13 . He generally goes to bed at 8:30 and reads until 9. Wednesday he goes to bed at 10 due to army cadets and Friday is around 10 due to scouts.
Apart from Thursday morning when I wake him at 6:30 ( school starts at 7:30 for him that day). He gets up at 7:30 week days and later on the weekends.
Ds 2 is 11. He also goes to bed the same time as ds 1. When dh is home he will go to bed earlier on the Wednesday ( dh is navy and away this year😪, so ds2 has to come with me to pick ds1 up). He will however go straight to bed at 9:45, ds1 needs that extra 15 mins to unwind. Likewise ds2 will go to bed as soon as we get him from scouts , where ds1 needs down time. Ds2 is generally up around 7.