Is there actually any evidence that letting a baby 'cry it out' is damaging to them? I mean so long as you know they are fed, dry, not ill etc?
9mo still waking up every 1-3 hours every night. I have tried pick up put down /coming in and out every 10 minutes (this just seemed to wind her up more) /cutting down on feeds. She just screams as soon as she wakes up even if she's in bed next to me. She won't take a dummy. I feel like the only way is to just leave her and not go in at all but I really don't want to do that, but I might need to.
Please don't tell me how it's normal for a baby to wake up lots and they will grow out of it - this is like saying the effect it has ob me is nothing and I just need to suck it up and let it ruin my life, relationship, health, mental state.