Nocturnal DC1, advice please

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Hello, have our pfb DD home, born 3 days ago. Whilst she is perfect (to us), we are concerned that she seems totally nocturnal. Will sleep for 3 hours + in moses during day, or will sleep in bouncy chair / pushchair. Come night time she comes alive, and is only satisfied when on one of us. I know sleep deprivation comes with newborns, and I'm not asking for a magic solution, but any help gratefully received. Families bit old fashioned, "don't make a rod for your own back " etc, so unable to get any advice anywhere else, especially at 2am! She is EBF if that makes any difference. Just want to know that we are not making some spectacular parenting fail that we are unaware of. Thanks in advance.

Nope you're doing nothing wrong. She's a newborn and you just have to follow her lead. Has your milk come in yet?? Just make sure you know how to cosleep safely if that's what you decide / need to do.

google cheshire baby whisperer and phone her is my tip. Congratulations!!

It's completely normal for newborns to have their days and nights mixed up. You are doing nothing wrong and it will sort itself out. See here.

My theory is that all newborns are nocturnal with a sort of "jetlag" and thus you should expect it to take the first month to sort out. If you think about it, before they are born they are rocked comfortably to sleep all day long, then you are still at night and they wake up and party ... They're not going to change that routine instantly!

Thank you all so much. In the cold light of day this all makes perfect sense, but in the middle of the night the paranoia gremlins creep in and convince you that you're doing everything wrong and ruining your babies chance of ever growing into a decent human being, and that she will most definitely grown into a serial killer

Agree as the rest. It's totally normal for night and day to be mixed up. At this age do whatever you feel you need to, to both get rest - definitely no rods will be created.

As a good start though try to make daytimes noisy and interesting and nights dark and quiet and eventually she will get the idea.

She is perfect! Enjoy your precious first few days.

Don't sweat it! My PFB was like this for three weeks!! It was a long three weeks but she's all of five weeks now and is getting better (better - not great!) The change has come about on it's own. We just worked round her and did what we needed to get by. Best of luck - and don't worry, it's normal for them to start out topsy-turvy!

Yeah it's hard work but normal! Make day and night different so she starts to learn the difference and get more in sync - e.g. daytime is noisy, bright, talking, singing etc. Night time is dark, quiet, no chat just shushing, no playing just milk/cuddles (nappy change only if essential).

Enjoy your cuddly newborn

My PFB is still like this. He is 12! Friday night he was still up at 4. I made him get up at 11 as we had things to do and I am not pandering to him. Last night I made him go up at midnight.

Tonight bedtime will be 9.30 as school tomorrow

It's really normal and usually settles. How quickly it settles depends on the baby!

Unfortunately newborns have no idea how to behave and their grandparents have forgotten what they went through. Do what ever you have to to get through this period and ignore other generations/get them to deal with each other directly!