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Baby whisperer - pick up, put down

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shish · 22/01/2007 10:48

Has anyone tried this method of getting their little one to sleep through?? Did it work?? How long are you supposed to let them cry in between??

My ds keeps waking in the night wanting to be cuddled and rocked back to sleep. Hv has toild me to let him cry for up to half and hour and it should take a week for him to settle. We've been trying for 2 weeks, but neither of us have been able to leave him to dry for more than 3-4mins and then it takes even longer to settle him..

Tonight we are thinking of trying the pickup, put down routine..

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nappyaddict · 22/01/2007 11:24

i tried that but it was no use, the more we picked him up the worse he cried when i put him back down. in the end i just left him to cry went downstairs and turned the baby monitor off so i couldnt here him. it was horrible but after being a great sleeper he had started still being awake at 9 or 10 o clock.

sometimes now he will wake in the night crying i will cuddle him and he'll go straight back off. i was always try the pick up put down method, but if after a few goes it doesnt work i leave him. hth x

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shish · 22/01/2007 12:33

Does anyone else have any experience of this method?

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twickersmum · 22/01/2007 12:43

i found it worked

pick them up until they calm down, then put straight back down when still awake. they have to settle themselves back to sleep.

don't talk, don't come out of the room, just shush shush shush shush, pat their backs rhythmically.

tigertiger · 22/01/2007 12:43

it's a load of rubbish in my opionion...the only reason it works is because my ds ends up exhausted and then goes to sleep...hardly any different from leaving them to cry it out (which, seems awful, but sometimes nothing else works!)

TrinityRhino · 22/01/2007 12:44

i wish she was still alive, I would pay good money to have her come to my house and help me sort out dd2's sleeping, I think she was fab

AllBuggiedOut · 22/01/2007 12:46

Tried it, it did my back and head in. Found it much more distressing than just leaving him to cry it out. How old is your DS?

tigertiger · 22/01/2007 12:53

totally agree with you buggied...yes, ds would stop when you picked him up, but that in itself is a mission some times, and then the whole thing would start again as soon as i put him back down. I keep trying it, but i never have any success and end up leaving him to cry while i calm down as i think i end up more frustrated than him!

tortoiseSHELL · 22/01/2007 12:55

WOrked fine with dd, hasn't worked at all with ds2 - he just cries more when you pick him up unless you feed him. We tried it a few nights, but after dh picked him up and cuddled him for half an hour and he was still screaming we abandoned it!

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shish · 22/01/2007 17:21

My ds is 7 months. he will fall back asleep in my arms and I have to wait for him to be in a deep sleep before I put him bakc down. The quicker I tend to him, the quicker he falls back asleep. But I need him to get out of this habit. He should really be sleeping through now..

He doesn't feed in the night anymore and he's definately not hungry. He just wants me to hold him.

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shish · 24/01/2007 16:11

Bump - Not working so far. Would I be better off just going with the flow and giving him his cuddles in the night?? Will he just grow out of this?? I'm wondering if the cold isn't helping. 2 nights ago after having ds wake us every hour, we brought him in our bed at 2am and he slept soundly after that.

Any help/ advice would be greatly appreciated. Really don't know what to do.

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becksmummy · 24/01/2007 16:32

Not able to offer any help Shish but wanted to let you know my dd who is also 7 months is exactly the same and needs to fall asleep in my arms so I wonder if it is a phase? She too will sleep through if I put her in with me!! Let me know if you find a solution!!

AllBuggiedOut · 24/01/2007 18:22

I think it all depends on your priorities. What is VERY unlikely is that he will "grow out of it" and just decide on his own that his cot is a better place than your bed - why would he?! Personally, I think it is easier/quicker/less distressing to break a habit when they are little - because once they can shout "mummy" rather than just cry for you it will REALLY break your heart! So in your position I would wait until DS is well, and go for it leaving him to cry. You will really appreciate it once he does sleep through in his cot, I'm sure.

Good luck!

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shish · 25/01/2007 11:53

He doesn't seem to mind his cot too much. It seems like he keeps on wanting re-assurance that I'm there in the night?? Even when I bring him in the bed he doesn't sleep all the way through. He gets so hysterica when I leave him to cry and then it takes forever to settle him after. That's why we thought of trying pick up, put down.

Last night was a bit better. Most of the night in his cot. I didn't pick him up at all. When he woke up I stroked his head and he went back to sleep. Then it got freezing in the night and he started waking up more, so we brought him in. Is the fact that I didn't have to pick him up to go back to sleep saying that we're moving forward or am I just kidding myself?

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shish · 29/01/2007 10:50

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lori21 · 29/01/2007 12:48

My 7 month old is similar too. I can't do the crying thing. I have read that for some babies the expectation that they should be 'sleeping through' by 6 months is unrealistic but the sleepless nights are hard work. My lo is definately hungry at night but sometimes is not so I could not leave him to cry. Hope someone comes up with some answers although talking to some friends they are like 'oh yeah my third son he did not sleep through until he was 3yrs old'!

Many sleepy thoughts.....

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