9 month old continuously waking up. Please help

[Keiraobrien]

I have a 9 month old baby who eats well and plays and has one nap in the day goes to bed at 7 and wakes at 6:30 with normally about 5-8 wakes at night for boobie time but the last few nights it's been over 20 wake ups I'm loosing my mind I am begging to resent breastfeeding. She refuse to take a bottle and she also refuses to take a dummy never used either when younger and now she just doesn't want any of them what can I do. In hungry tired and have so much to do in the day time her daytime nap is very short can't nap with her please help me.

Do you feed her to sleep? If you do, stop. Get her to sleep ideally in her cot from awake.

She doesn't need milk at night at 9 months old.

My 10mo used to wake up a number of times throughout the night and I would feed him back to sleep. Hv advised to give hima few spoonfuls of porridge when he woke at 8pm and not to let him fall asleep on the boob. This has helped and he only wakes up once or twice through the night now. Partially because of the advice and also he's just naturally out grown the wake ups. It's hard not to let them fall asleep on the boob though. I put my ds down in his cot and rub his back until he falls asleep. He's quite a placid baby though, my first child wouldn't have done this as she has always been very stubborn. Also ds woke up frequently when he was developing an ear infection or teething.

It sounds like a sleep regression. Our 12 month old is still was doing this at 9 months. The main thing is to teach her other ways to fall asleep, not just boobie. So rock her or sing to her or stroke / pat when she awakes to help her find other ways to settle.

My (now 10 yo) DS1 was like this at 9 months, waking every 45 minutes through the night. It's likely to be a developmental thing. With him it was crawling. So she's not waking for milk, she's just waking and needs comfort. I thought I was going to die from sleep deprivation but the thing that helped us to get through it was co-sleeping.

I have a nine month old who was very much like this so we night weaned just after six months. He was weaned at four months on the paediatrician's advice, for reflux and failure to thrive so was taking in three big meals a day by then. Other babies might take longer to get into the swing of eating but by nine months they shouldn't need feeds at night for nutritional purposes.

I'm not saying he turned into a great sleeper overnight but he did learn to get himself back off without boob. Some nights we put him down at 7 now and won't hear from him until 5am which to me is a win.

Hi Keiraobrien - we're going to move this over to our Sleep topic for you where you'll get some more responses.

20 wake-ups is enough to send anyone over the edge. You need to teach her to settle herself to sleep, there are a number of techniques you can try but she should go into her bed awake (drowsy possibly but not asleep) If she's eating well she shouldn't need milk at night.

If I put my 9 month old awake in her cot she'd just scream for hours. A gentler way might be to just hold rather than feed to sleep and see if that helps. Self settling is developmental and can't really be taught.