15mo and controlled crying

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AnnaBanana25 · 20/09/2015 10:10

Im looking for advice from people who have tried cc with their older babies. We started cc and it really helped improve ds's sleep. He still has night wakings and one night feed which I feel is normal. However we now have trouble settling him when he is teething/not feeling well and I dont know what to do. when we go in to comfort him, he struggles obviously, however picking him up for a cuddle doesnt seem to work as he thrashes himself around in arms and gets more upset (we had months of this before cc, dont feel its linked to anything, think he just doesnt feel comforted by this and finds it confusing). I dont think its right to just leave him and carry on with the technique if hes unwell
and needs us. I also feel so useless as a mum not knowing how to comfort my own boy.

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AnnaBanana25 · 20/09/2015 10:14

Posted to early. So Im just looking for advice on how to help him while hes teething.
also is cc something you need to do consistently? I was under the impression it was something that would take a few weeks then we could benefit from him knowing how to fall asleep in his cot but still being able to comfort him.

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FATEdestiny · 20/09/2015 11:13

I would try introducing a comforter toy or similar. I have to say that 15 months is old for establishing a special bond with a comforter toy, but worth a try.

I did CC with my now 11 year old (so a long time ago) when she was 14 months old. However she had a dummy so that acted as her comfort when upset and seeking comfort.

While CC is an accepted sleep training method for toddlers, I feel that the child needs to get comfort from something when going to sleep, not no comfort at all. The key is making sure they can gain this comfort independently - so with something like a dummy, teddy, toy, blankie etc.

Pinkpowderpuff · 20/09/2015 12:23

I introduced a comfort toy for my now 17mo when he was 15mo, it was something he chose himself when he was about 10mo but although it stayed in his cot he never really had an attachment to it. About 7 weeks ago I made a conscious decision to try and help him get more attached to it as he doesn't have any other comfort objects. He does now have some attachment to it and although it hasn't eliminated night wakings, when he does wake I just hand him the toy (if has usually made it's way under his pillow) and he snuggles with it and drops back to sleep. I must add though that it doesn't cut the mustard if he is teething! If that is the case we don't pick him up, we usually pat his bum until he drops back off.

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AnnaBanana25 · 20/09/2015 18:26

Thanks, I appreciate the tips. Ds has a few comforter things and a blankie he has started to cuddle up to at night. does it work better if its just one and how do you encourage them out of bed to use it for comfort?
I totally agree fate about the comfort thing. wish when hes poorly I could pick him up and make him feel better but anything other than rubbing his back distresses him more. cuddly thing sounds like the way forward

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AnnaBanana25 · 20/09/2015 18:51

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Pinkpowderpuff · 20/09/2015 19:08

We don't let the toy leave his room, it is a night time/nap comfort only and as a result should also work as a sleep association.

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